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How and When to Take the Leap of Faith

Have there ever been times in your life when you knew you just had to take a leap of faith? When the only answer was to just jump and do something? Even if it made no logical sense?

Did you do it? Did you take the leap? How was your landing?

I’ve discovered over and over again in my life that when we take the leap of faith, that’s when the Magic happens.

Watch this video and see what I mean…

Is there something in your life that’s calling you to take a leap of faith? Do you need a little nudge? If so, take the leap of faith and come to Sedona and do a retreat.

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Today I’m talking with you about How and when to take the leap of faith.

Have there ever been times in your life when you knew you just had to take a leap of faith? When the only answer was to just jump and do something? Even if it made no logical sense?

Did you do it? Did you take the leap? How was your landing?       

I’ve discovered over and over again in my life that when we take the leap of faith, that’s when the Magic happens.

I’ve had two times in my life where I took a leap of faith. Both times, I thought I was jumping into the abyss…

The first time it happened, I was at such a low point in my life that it almost felt like throwing myself off a cliff and because I was so unhappy, I didn’t care. The second time I was so happy that I felt my happiness would save me. The interesting thing is, in both situations, I was right.

The first time I took the leap of faith was when I left my 20 year law practice after I came to Sedona for the first time. I just left. I couldn’t take it anymore. I was a divorce lawyer and although I loved the part where I was helping my clients, I just couldn’t take another day of the fighting, arguing and emotional turmoil. I had no idea what I was going to do. I had no plan. I didn’t have enough money to just not work – in fact I was in debt. But I did it. I left. I spent 6 months taking care of all of my 175 cases and left. And at that time I came to Sedona for one month.

During that month I did three types of healing work that were life changing.

The heaviness was starting to clear and I was starting to come back into Connection. I still didn’t have a plan. I still didn’t have any idea what I was going to do, but I was starting to feel a lot better.

Over the next three years, I came to Sedona for a month at a time to do healing work with different practitioners that I would find. Some were amazing and some were not. But they all contributed to my growing awareness that something was “Right around the corner.” I knew that my own healing had to be somewhat complete before it would show up.

And then suddenly, two weeks before 9/11 happened, I was in Sedona doing a session and my high self came in and told me it was time to move to Sedona. I asked, “why, what am I going to be doing in Sedona?” But it seems like they always just show you the next step, they never show you the whole thing.   

So I was being told to leave Omaha, sell my house, leave my friends, and come to Sedona. For three years, people would always ask me, “when are you moving to Sedona?” and I always said that I was “never” moving to Sedona. Well, never say never!

Right after I got the message that I was supposed to move to Sedona, I chanced upon the movie “Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade” while I was channel surfing. This is the one with Sean Connery playing Indiana’s father. At the end of the movie, the Nazis have shot Indie’s dad in the stomach and the only way Indie can save him is to solve a bunch of riddles and find the Holy Grail. Indie is told he needs to take a leap of faith.

He looks down and sees a chasm that is so deep he can’t even see the bottom of it. Taking the leap of faith means stepping into this chasm into what looks like certain death. He takes a deep breath and steps forward. Suddenly a path rises up to meet him and he can cross the divide. When he felt the faith and believed, there it was, the path rose up to meet him.

He found the Holy Grail,  aved his father, and they all (literally) go riding off into the sunset (and this was filmed at one of my favorite, mystical places in the world, Petra (the Rose City) in Jordan).

I sold my house in three days – they said it would take six months – and I moved to Sedona. Six months later, I started Sedona Soul Adventures. We’ve helped thousands of people, I take groups each year to Egypt and Peru, last year I married the man of my dreams — I am now officially living happily ever after.

If I hadn’t taken the Leap of Faith, none of this would have happened. I saved my own life, not realizing the impact all of this would have on the lives of so many others.

We’re all being guided. We’re all being tested. We can stay in our comfort zone and have things continue to be miserable and boring, or we can take the leap and see what magic happens. 

A woman came last week to start her Soul Adventure. She was very nervous. She’s been reading my newsletter, watching my videos for five years, and had been wanting to do a retreat with us that entire time – five years. She said it took her all that time to finally take the Leap of Faith, but she was already feeling the exhilaration and liberation of having done that. And I’m happy to say her Soul Adventure was a roaring success; her life has been completely changed. It’s so amazing what can happen when we finally give ourselves permission to take that leap.

So how do you take the leap of faith? It’s very simple. You just have to do it.

It’s simple, it’s not easy, but that’s what you have to do. You know when something is calling you, you feel the itch, you feel the energy. And then you just have to do it.

 

So how about it? Is there something in your life that’s calling you to take a leap of faith? Is there something that you know you’re supposed to be doing and you’re holding yourself back? Is there something that’s keeping you from living a life of joy and bliss?

The only thing holding you back is you.

So I invite you to come to take the leap of faith and come to Sedona and do a soul adventure. We’ll figure out the blocks that are holding you back. We’ll help you through the leap into a soft, beautiful exciting landing and into the joy and bliss that are your birthright.

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You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

I was lucky enough back then to connect with Jorge Luis Delgado, our shaman and guide. Jorge is a master and as everyone in all my groups always say, they can’t imagine doing Peru without Jorge, that it quite simply wouldn’t be the same. That’s a photo of my fabulous 2008 group.

On my first trip in 2008, I met his wife and son, who at the time was 14, a gangly teenager, and he spoke great English. He and I started talking and sat next to each other on our bus ride from Lake Titicaca to Juliaca.

We started talking about American politics, as the 2008 election was in full swing, and Barack Obama and Hilary Clinton were slugging it out in the primaries. He asked me if I thought it was possible that Obama might be nominated and possibly win, and we had a very spirited and enjoyable conversation.

Jorge told me later, “It’s so strange, I’m not sure how this happened, he’s so interested in American politics and all kinds of things from other countries.”

Over the years, I’ve always asked Jorge how his son was doing and the news just kept getting more and more interesting. He did very well in school, went to University, then ended up living and working in Japan, spent some time in China, and learned to speak Japanese and Chinese fluently. Now this year, he decided to return to Peru and he’s working with Jorge!

He was working with a Chinese group and he came to the airport in Cusco when we were about to depart for Lake Titicaca, and we got to spend some time talking. What a joy to see and feel what an incredible young man he has become.

I asked him why he had returned to Peru and he told me, “I want to really learn all the spiritual teachings.” Isn’t that fantastic? This gangly little kid I met 11 years ago, has become a worldly, accomplished man interested in all aspects of the world, including spirituality. He said he plans to stay here for about two years and then he’ll be off to some other place in the world.

It’s reminiscent of my godson, Anthony, who I also got to see on this trip and what a joy that was. Back in 2008 when we went to Amantani for the first time (a very rustic, beautiful island in Lake Titicaca where at the time they had no electricity and no running water), we did a very special ceremony and we spent the night in the home of his family.

Anthony was 6 months old at the time, a tiny, adorable baby.

I spent a large amount of that evening holding him and at times I was crying gently and processing. His parents, Juana and Joaquin, don’t speak English, but in some way we really connected.

It turns out that two days later they were doing a ceremony with Anthony that is somewhat similar to what we know as baptism.

They asked Jorge to ask me if I would like to be a godmother for Anthony because they felt I had such a strong connection to him. They said they didn’t want any obligation from me, just the spiritual connection. I was honored and the ceremony was very beautiful.

After that, I would see Anthony every year and I’ve also happily contributed to the family and Anthony’s education. This photo is from 2014, when I brought him some blowing bubbles. At that time, Anthony was six and he told me he wanted to become a doctor. He also said he was learning traditional Peruvian dance and he enjoyed that very much.

Starting in 2015, Anthony started going to boarding school on the mainland so that he could receive a really good education, so he was never at home when we would spend the night at Juana and Joaquin’s home on Amantani. But this year, what a surprise. They brought him, along with his sister, to Chiquito where we had a reunion.

He showed me his school Certificate of Excellence and his parents told me what a good student he is. One of the members of our group interpreted (thank you, Rhonda!), and he told me again that he wants to be a doctor and how much he still enjoys dancing. But now he also really enjoys football (soccer).

To think that this boy from a small island, where they have almost no electricity or running water and when you take a walk you continually run into people who are herding sheep and donkeys, is going to become a doctor…this reminded me of Jorge’s son. Anthony’s energy is so sweet and pure, yet he is also a determined little boy and I can’t wait to see how this unfolds.

Another really fun thing we do every year is to go to Seminario Ceramics in Ollantaytambo. Pablo Seminario is one of the premier ceramic artists in the world, his works are displayed in various museums around the world, including the Field Museum in Chicago.

When I brought my first group in 2008, when we were returning from Machu Picchu by train after a very long day, Jorge asked me, “Would you like to go to the ceramics place?” Not having any idea of what an incredible place this was, I said no because everyone was tired.

One of the members of the group, Jennifer Watt, overheard us and said, “What are we talking about?” and I said, “That we’re not going to the ceramics place.” She said to me in her usual very direct way, “Who made that decision?” and I responded that I did. I then said if she wanted to go, we’d go and I am so glad I did. His work is so incredible and over the years, I’ve brought many of his pieces to my home and each year he speaks to our group and we have a wonderful interaction with him and his wife Marilu.

After that trip, Jen and I became great friends and in 2010, I asked her to lead my Peru trip two years in a row (I had Egypt in March, Peru in April and Bali in June, and it was becoming too much to handle), she loved Peru and she had experience leading groups. She did a fantastic job and from that, got a job leading trips to Peru, especially for high school and college students and teachers.

She has now been to Peru 54 times! And one of the things she has incorporated into the tours is an intensive piece of learning about traditional ceramics through Seminario! She, Pablo and Marilu have become great friends.

So when we were there last week, we took a photo of all of us to text to Jen saying, “Wish you were here.” Jen had just been in Sedona the week before visiting us at our home and we showed Pablo this photo of Jen and our friend Ranjita (who had been on the Peru trip with me in 2008 and again last year).

I told Pablo this is the view from our home, and he and Marilu should come and visit us in Sedona. He said, “If Jen will bring me, I will come to Sedona!”

So it’s so incredible to me, all these connections that started with this first trip and have woven their way through my life, and all these other lives, through the years. Not to mention the other close friends I have made through these trips, people who came on the trips, people I love who are a huge part of my life.

Because at the end of the day, all of this is not so much about the sites (although they are absolutely incredible), it’s about the amazing people we share them with and keep connecting with.

This year again, our group has bonded in such a beautiful, special way. One of the women said to me yesterday, “I can’t believe how I love everyone in this group and feel so close to them. Doing this with other like-minded people has just been so wonderful.

Nothing is Wrong with Your Life – and Ways to Make That be True for You

In my last video, I talked about how Nothing is Wrong With You. If you haven’t seen it, I really want to encourage you to watch it here.

So the next logical step is really getting it that Nothing Is Wrong With Your Life. Watch the video:

If you want to get happy, these are the most important principles for you to learn and understand. And if you’re having difficulty with that, please come to Sedona and do a retreat with us. Call us and connect with one of our Retreat Guides. They’ll speak with you (or both of you for a couple) in deep conversation, really digging deep to get at what’s causing the problems. Then they’ll custom design a retreat that will clear out the blocks and gunk, and bring you into a place of love, acceptance, peace and happiness on all levels.

When that happens, every part of your life is operating on all cylinders.

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Anne says she’s “Still experiencing the benefits 6 months later” from her Soul Adventure in all aspects of her life (spiritual connection, love, work) from her Soul Adventure

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Today I’m talking to you about the radical idea that Nothing is Wrong with Your Life.

Before we start, I know you’re out there saying, “You’re crazy, Debra, my life sucks, and who are you to tell me that there is nothing wrong with my life?”

Okay, just slow down, let’s back up a little and stay with me for a little bit. Because I’ll tell you when I finally got this – all the areas of my life completely turned around.

So, it sort of starts like this: You look around and you say to yourself, “Why is everyone else’s life so much better than mine?”

Well I want to tell you, the truth is: it isn’t. Everyone’s got his or her stuff going on.

AND your life can get better pretty quickly when you shift the energy and start believing that nothing is wrong with your life. I know because that’s exactly what happened to me 20 years ago.

At that time, I was unhappy, hated my work, in an unhappy marriage, I was $50,000 in debt and I weighed 40 pounds more than I weigh now. When I finally started to implement all of these ideas, $50,000 dropped out of the sky (more on that in another video), I dropped 40 pounds in 5 weeks without diet or exercise (more on that in yet another video) and I started doing the work of my dreams with Sedona Soul Adventures. And last year, I married the man of my dreams. I’m telling you this stuff works!

So let’s start at the beginning… I have lots of other videos out there where I’m talking about this and talking about the ideas of Quantum Physics that pertain to this, so at this point, I hope you’re tracking with me on the basic principles that we’ve discussed so far.

Let’s just review them really quickly:

  • Everything is energy
  • We are generating energy at all times
  • Quantum Physics has proven that we can change things simply by giving our attention to them
  • What we put our attention on expands

Thinking that there is something wrong with your life causes unhappiness. There can be an almost infinite combination of life circumstances that causes unhappiness, but in the end, the answer is simple:

When you are unhappy, it is because you think something is wrong.  

Many people spend most of their lives in this place – unhappy with their circumstances, work, money, body, husband/wife/children/family/friends.

It’s easy to see how it happens. We’re bombarded every day with media messages telling us that we should be better, thinner, richer, and happier when, in reality, this simply makes us even more unhappy and dissatisfied because we’re comparing our lives to an impossible standard.

And that’s the entire problem in a nutshell – Comparing Yourself to Others.

Comparing yourself to anyone is a losing game. It’s a set up. You can never win that game. So you need to Stop!

And the truth is: You don’t know really what’s going on with anyone else. I don’t care if it’s your best friend, you don’t really ever know what’s going on behind closed doors.

Here’s a simple truth: at the root of everything you say you want (money, satisfying work, a good marriage, perfect children, a beautiful home) is a desire for Peace and Happiness. A feeling of Contentment. That is what you are truly yearning for.

And what if I told you that there’s a secret to turning this around – a way for you to have lasting joy and happiness WITHOUT sacrificing the things you want and without going off to live in a cave in India? (And, of course, nothing is wrong with living in a cave in India.)

It starts by letting go of the story that something is wrong.

What I’m going to talk to you about flies in the face of what most people believe, because most people believe they can’t have what they want, they believe that life is difficult, they have to overcome things, fight things to make them better.

What I’m saying to you is that I’ve found in my own life, and with the thousands of people that we’ve helped through Sedona Soul Adventures, is that the more I drop my resistance, the more I am able to go with the flow, the more things have happened that are almost miraculous.  

The key is to Stop Comparing your life to others.  

Or if you are going to compare your life, let’s get real and do some real comparisons. If you live in the United States, you’re in the top 25% for money, food, transportation, pretty much you name it. You live in a house or an apartment, you have a job, you have a car, you have food, you might even be a little overweight, because most Americans are.

And you might be saying, “But Debra everyone is unhappy when they don’t have enough money/love/___ (fill in the blank with whatever it is you think you lack).” But is that really true? Don’t you know people who don’t have a lot of money who are happy?

Have you seen the movie “Happy”? It’s this amazing documentary that chronicles the elusive search for happiness across different cultures. It includes the story of a man who lives in India and from any perspective, he is living in squalor, but he is so full of love for his young son that he is a truly happy man. And he defines himself as a happy man.

And at the opposite end of the spectrum, don’t you know people who have a lot of money who aren’t happy? Who, no matter what, it’s never enough? So this is the big truth…

It’s not your circumstances, it’s how you react to your circumstances.

  • How you think about your circumstances
  • How you talk about your circumstances  
  • How you feel about your circumstances

Or as the famous speaker Zig Ziglar once said, “It’s not what happens to you that matters. It’s how you respond to what happens to you that makes all the difference.”

So I want this idea to make all the difference for you. If this is the first of my videos that you’ve come across, I want to invite you find some of them where I talk about all kinds of ways to help you shift this energy. And I invite you to read my book because it’s jam packed with that information. But for right now, I just want you to try this idea on for size – that there’s Nothing Wrong with Your Life.

Stop comparing yourself to others and start being grateful for what you already have, and things can start to turn around in an almost magical way.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

I was lucky enough back then to connect with Jorge Luis Delgado, our shaman and guide. Jorge is a master and as everyone in all my groups always say, they can’t imagine doing Peru without Jorge, that it quite simply wouldn’t be the same. That’s a photo of my fabulous 2008 group.

On my first trip in 2008, I met his wife and son, who at the time was 14, a gangly teenager, and he spoke great English. He and I started talking and sat next to each other on our bus ride from Lake Titicaca to Juliaca.

We started talking about American politics, as the 2008 election was in full swing, and Barack Obama and Hilary Clinton were slugging it out in the primaries. He asked me if I thought it was possible that Obama might be nominated and possibly win, and we had a very spirited and enjoyable conversation.

Jorge told me later, “It’s so strange, I’m not sure how this happened, he’s so interested in American politics and all kinds of things from other countries.”

Over the years, I’ve always asked Jorge how his son was doing and the news just kept getting more and more interesting. He did very well in school, went to University, then ended up living and working in Japan, spent some time in China, and learned to speak Japanese and Chinese fluently. Now this year, he decided to return to Peru and he’s working with Jorge!

He was working with a Chinese group and he came to the airport in Cusco when we were about to depart for Lake Titicaca, and we got to spend some time talking. What a joy to see and feel what an incredible young man he has become.

I asked him why he had returned to Peru and he told me, “I want to really learn all the spiritual teachings.” Isn’t that fantastic? This gangly little kid I met 11 years ago, has become a worldly, accomplished man interested in all aspects of the world, including spirituality. He said he plans to stay here for about two years and then he’ll be off to some other place in the world.

It’s reminiscent of my godson, Anthony, who I also got to see on this trip and what a joy that was. Back in 2008 when we went to Amantani for the first time (a very rustic, beautiful island in Lake Titicaca where at the time they had no electricity and no running water), we did a very special ceremony and we spent the night in the home of his family.

Anthony was 6 months old at the time, a tiny, adorable baby.

I spent a large amount of that evening holding him and at times I was crying gently and processing. His parents, Juana and Joaquin, don’t speak English, but in some way we really connected.

It turns out that two days later they were doing a ceremony with Anthony that is somewhat similar to what we know as baptism.

They asked Jorge to ask me if I would like to be a godmother for Anthony because they felt I had such a strong connection to him. They said they didn’t want any obligation from me, just the spiritual connection. I was honored and the ceremony was very beautiful.

After that, I would see Anthony every year and I’ve also happily contributed to the family and Anthony’s education. This photo is from 2014, when I brought him some blowing bubbles. At that time, Anthony was six and he told me he wanted to become a doctor. He also said he was learning traditional Peruvian dance and he enjoyed that very much.

Starting in 2015, Anthony started going to boarding school on the mainland so that he could receive a really good education, so he was never at home when we would spend the night at Juana and Joaquin’s home on Amantani. But this year, what a surprise. They brought him, along with his sister, to Chiquito where we had a reunion.

He showed me his school Certificate of Excellence and his parents told me what a good student he is. One of the members of our group interpreted (thank you, Rhonda!), and he told me again that he wants to be a doctor and how much he still enjoys dancing. But now he also really enjoys football (soccer).

To think that this boy from a small island, where they have almost no electricity or running water and when you take a walk you continually run into people who are herding sheep and donkeys, is going to become a doctor…this reminded me of Jorge’s son. Anthony’s energy is so sweet and pure, yet he is also a determined little boy and I can’t wait to see how this unfolds.

Another really fun thing we do every year is to go to Seminario Ceramics in Ollantaytambo. Pablo Seminario is one of the premier ceramic artists in the world, his works are displayed in various museums around the world, including the Field Museum in Chicago.

When I brought my first group in 2008, when we were returning from Machu Picchu by train after a very long day, Jorge asked me, “Would you like to go to the ceramics place?” Not having any idea of what an incredible place this was, I said no because everyone was tired.

One of the members of the group, Jennifer Watt, overheard us and said, “What are we talking about?” and I said, “That we’re not going to the ceramics place.” She said to me in her usual very direct way, “Who made that decision?” and I responded that I did. I then said if she wanted to go, we’d go and I am so glad I did. His work is so incredible and over the years, I’ve brought many of his pieces to my home and each year he speaks to our group and we have a wonderful interaction with him and his wife Marilu.

After that trip, Jen and I became great friends and in 2010, I asked her to lead my Peru trip two years in a row (I had Egypt in March, Peru in April and Bali in June, and it was becoming too much to handle), she loved Peru and she had experience leading groups. She did a fantastic job and from that, got a job leading trips to Peru, especially for high school and college students and teachers.

She has now been to Peru 54 times! And one of the things she has incorporated into the tours is an intensive piece of learning about traditional ceramics through Seminario! She, Pablo and Marilu have become great friends.

So when we were there last week, we took a photo of all of us to text to Jen saying, “Wish you were here.” Jen had just been in Sedona the week before visiting us at our home and we showed Pablo this photo of Jen and our friend Ranjita (who had been on the Peru trip with me in 2008 and again last year).

I told Pablo this is the view from our home, and he and Marilu should come and visit us in Sedona. He said, “If Jen will bring me, I will come to Sedona!”

So it’s so incredible to me, all these connections that started with this first trip and have woven their way through my life, and all these other lives, through the years. Not to mention the other close friends I have made through these trips, people who came on the trips, people I love who are a huge part of my life.

Because at the end of the day, all of this is not so much about the sites (although they are absolutely incredible), it’s about the amazing people we share them with and keep connecting with.

This year again, our group has bonded in such a beautiful, special way. One of the women said to me yesterday, “I can’t believe how I love everyone in this group and feel so close to them. Doing this with other like-minded people has just been so wonderful.

If Ever You Thought there was Something Wrong with You – Watch This

This is the most important video I’ve made for you during this past year…

Because this issue, the issue of thinking there is something wrong with you (even if you think it just a little bit) is at the core of any of the problems you might be having. I see this over and over again with all the people we work with.

I hope this helps…

From my experience, this issue is at the heart of everything that is going on with all of us. And if you need help with this, we’re here for you.

Give us a call and we’ll connect with you. Or both of you, for a couple — and believe me, the core issue at the heart of most relationship problems is that both of you are playing out your “I’m not good enough” issues with each other (even if you’re not able to see that yourself). We’ll find what’s causing the problem and we won’t sugarcoat it – we’ll blast through it with you. We’ll bring you into the self-love and self-acceptance that will change every part of your life.

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Michelle says, “Change your life with a Soul Adventure”

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In this series of videos, I’m talking to you about concepts from my book, The Journey to Happy– How Embracing the Concept that Nothing is wrong can transform your life.

So far, I’ve given you about 20 videos now that are based on the book and I’ve waited until now to talk about what I consider to be THE MOST IMPORTANT concept, the one that is actually what I start off with in the book. And that is:

Nothing Is Wrong With You

From my own personal journey, but especially in my work here at Sedona Soul Adventures that I’ve been doing since 2002, I know that the most important concept, the one that can change everything in your life, is truly believing and embracing the idea that nothing is wrong with you. It’s at the core of everything that is causing problems in your life.

And I can already hear you out there reacting to this and saying things to yourself like, “Debra, what are you talking about? Of course there’s something wrong with me… I’m not happy, I’m not good enough, I’m not smart enough, I don’t make enough money…” and on and on – and yes, you can keep on going like that and arguing for all of your deficiencies… And that’s exactly what’s going to continue to keep you stuck.  

I want to argue for the other side. Because on the other side is everything you want:  

Peace
Happiness
Love
Your Dream Job
A Fantastic Relationship
A Healthy Body
Abundance

And of course…

Puppies
Kittens
Unicorns

And yes, to many it does sound like far out woo woo and that’s why I’m joking about the puppies, kittens and unicorns. But you can ask psychiatrists, psychologists, or business people who have had huge success and they will all tell you a variation on the same theme:

If you don’t love yourself, that’s going to sabotage every area of your life.

As Henry Ford said, there are two kinds of people in the world – those who think they can and those who think they can’t – and they’re both right. He knew that it’s all about what you’re thinking and what you’re believing.  

So why not make the decision to think something else about yourself? Why not make the decision that nothing is wrong with you and see what happens? What have you got to lose?

I was unhappy for most of my life. I grew up in a family where I was expected to perform, get good grades… it was all about achieving. Then when I was around 12, my father’s alcoholism really kicked in and then everything really went to hell. It felt like everything in my life was really wrong and not okay. I got married at 19 to try to escape that, which of course, never works. I became a divorce attorney and I hated all the fighting and upset. I constantly struggled with my weight because I hated my body and at one time weighed 40 pounds more than I weigh now.  

My mother died when she was only 51. I was only in my twenties. Amazingly, there was one really incredible thing that came out of that – it started me on my Spiritual Path. I was so unhappy and distraught that I was looking for answers. I read a zillion books, I took classes, I went to workshops and seminars, I went into therapy, I had readings, I did sessions and it all helped a little bit, but nothing started to really change for me until I started coming to Sedona over 20 years ago.  

Then I started working one-on-one with the amazing practitioners here and at one point, the most amazing thing happened…

My marriage was very unhappy, and one day my soon-to-be ex-husband and I got into an argument. Our arguments were always the same – no matter what he had done or not done, his position was that there was never any justification for my being angry with him. The problem was never the issue that I was angry about. The problem was my anger and me. There was something wrong with me.

I went home, alone. I began sobbing. Finally, I was sobbing so hard that I just climbed into bed.

All of a sudden, my body started vibrating. It was vibrating so much that I couldn’t move. And this is where the story gets a little weird, but hang in there with me. Then I heard a voice in my head, saying, “There is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you.” The voice repeated those words over and over.  

I started thinking, “I know I need to listen to this. This is something big. I need to pay attention to this.”

And then I was being shown how, in all areas of my life – my body, my work, money, even my anger – all the areas where I had struggled, that there is nothing wrong with me. It lasted about an hour. I got out of bed and EVERYTHING CHANGED.  

I finally got it. I got it on all the levels: Physical, Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual. I knew I just had to drop my old belief that there was something wrong. I had to drop my resistance. I had to stop being so desperate about having everything be different.

And literally everything started to change for me.  

Five weeks later, I suddenly discovered that I had released 40 pounds without dieting or exercising. I didn’t even realize it was happening. I talk more about that in my video “Nothing is Wrong With Your Body,” so check that one out. The point is that when I suddenly shifted how I was thinking about everything, I had an immediate result in what had been one of the most difficult areas of my life.  

I’ve spoken with you before on other videos about why all this works. Quantum Physics has proven that Everything is Energy.

They’ve also proven that putting our attention on something in any way, changes it.  

So, if everything is energy and if putting our attention on something in any way changes it, that means we are all creating our reality in every moment.

What we focus on expands.  

We get more of whatever it is that we think about and talk about.  

So if you believe that there’s something wrong with you, you’re going to attract people who think there’s something wrong with you… you’re going to attract a mate who will ultimately believe there is something wrong with you… it goes on and on. I see it all the time.  

When you can make the shift, or as I call it, Flip the Switch into believing that nothing is wrong with you, everything can shift.

We had someone here just a few months ago and I have to say for almost everyone who comes to us, the underlying issue is almost always some version of, “I think there’s something wrong with me.” Even with people who originally tell us they don’t have that problem.

The questions are: Just how big is it? What triggered it in the first place? And how is it showing up? The answer to those questions is different for everyone, but the underlying problem is almost always a version of, “I think there’s something wrong with me.”

When this woman came to us, she had really been beaten down by life. She grew up with a mother who would actually talk about how she didn’t want to have children, so this woman felt completely unloved by her mother. Her father was a strict disciplinarian who expected his children to be high achievers, and she felt like she was always disappointing him.

Not surprisingly, she fell in love with a man who was very much like her father. She got pregnant (which he blamed on her), they got married and she always felt like he only married her because of the pregnancy, that he never really loved her. When she would express to him that she didn’t feel loved he would say to her, “I married you, didn’t I?” And he was constantly criticizing her.

So can you see how she had this belief that she was unloveable, that there must be something wrong with her because even her own mother and father didn’t love her, so then she attracted a man with that same vibration – a husband who she felt didn’t really love her.

She was a people pleaser, always doing things for others, trying to get love. She had a good job, but she was always doing too much and giving too much.

Within the same year, her husband left her and her mother died suddenly. This really put her in a tailspin and that’s when she came to us. She was broken and exhausted. She told us that her problem was that she was always doing too much for others and she needed to learn how to set boundaries. But we could tell it was much deeper than that.  

In her first clearing sessions, she could see how her heart had been broken almost immediately after she was born, because her mother just wasn’t capable of loving her. We did some sessions to move out this heartbreak and to fill up the hole in her heart. And then the really amazing thing happened…

In her breath journey, she suddenly had a vision of her mother coming to her. She told me, “Debra, it felt so real, I really believe she came to me.” Her mother told her how much she loved her, she told her that she had her own unhealed wounds that made this lifetime so difficult and she was so sorry that she had wounded her.  

Her mother told her over and over again, “I love you, my child. I love you, my child.” I mean, is that just so beautiful? She felt completely filled up with all this love and said that suddenly her mother sort of morphed into what she described as the Divine Mother. She wasn’t quite sure, she said it just felt heavenly, it felt like God. She felt like she was held and loved completely.  

And that just shifted everything.  

In her final transformational session, she saw how she has all that love within her. She has access to that Divine Love. She doesn’t have to depend on getting it from the outside – she has it all within herself.

She went back home and this has affected every area of her life. She went from not wanting the divorce, to being happy that she was now free to find someone who would really love her… and that actually happened within just a few months. She stopped being a doormat at work and actually ended up with a job offer from a very famous company that came out of the blue – she’s earning more money and she’s spending less time working than she did before, and that happened just a few weeks after she finished her retreat. Her relationship with her two children has become even better because she’s loving them on an even deeper level now.  

When you believe nothing is wrong with you, the people around you feel that and start thinking that too. Let me say that again because it’s so important:

When you believe nothing is wrong with you, the people around you feel that and start thinking that too…
and they start behaving accordingly.

There are lots of things you can do to start believing that nothing is wrong with you. I invite you to check out my other videos and read my book. But it starts with this one basic decision: To decide that nothing is wrong with you.

As the Buddha said, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.”

Are you going to argue with Buddha?

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

I was lucky enough back then to connect with Jorge Luis Delgado, our shaman and guide. Jorge is a master and as everyone in all my groups always say, they can’t imagine doing Peru without Jorge, that it quite simply wouldn’t be the same. That’s a photo of my fabulous 2008 group.

On my first trip in 2008, I met his wife and son, who at the time was 14, a gangly teenager, and he spoke great English. He and I started talking and sat next to each other on our bus ride from Lake Titicaca to Juliaca.

We started talking about American politics, as the 2008 election was in full swing, and Barack Obama and Hilary Clinton were slugging it out in the primaries. He asked me if I thought it was possible that Obama might be nominated and possibly win, and we had a very spirited and enjoyable conversation.

Jorge told me later, “It’s so strange, I’m not sure how this happened, he’s so interested in American politics and all kinds of things from other countries.”

Over the years, I’ve always asked Jorge how his son was doing and the news just kept getting more and more interesting. He did very well in school, went to University, then ended up living and working in Japan, spent some time in China, and learned to speak Japanese and Chinese fluently. Now this year, he decided to return to Peru and he’s working with Jorge!

He was working with a Chinese group and he came to the airport in Cusco when we were about to depart for Lake Titicaca, and we got to spend some time talking. What a joy to see and feel what an incredible young man he has become.

I asked him why he had returned to Peru and he told me, “I want to really learn all the spiritual teachings.” Isn’t that fantastic? This gangly little kid I met 11 years ago, has become a worldly, accomplished man interested in all aspects of the world, including spirituality. He said he plans to stay here for about two years and then he’ll be off to some other place in the world.

It’s reminiscent of my godson, Anthony, who I also got to see on this trip and what a joy that was. Back in 2008 when we went to Amantani for the first time (a very rustic, beautiful island in Lake Titicaca where at the time they had no electricity and no running water), we did a very special ceremony and we spent the night in the home of his family.

Anthony was 6 months old at the time, a tiny, adorable baby.

I spent a large amount of that evening holding him and at times I was crying gently and processing. His parents, Juana and Joaquin, don’t speak English, but in some way we really connected.

It turns out that two days later they were doing a ceremony with Anthony that is somewhat similar to what we know as baptism.

They asked Jorge to ask me if I would like to be a godmother for Anthony because they felt I had such a strong connection to him. They said they didn’t want any obligation from me, just the spiritual connection. I was honored and the ceremony was very beautiful.

After that, I would see Anthony every year and I’ve also happily contributed to the family and Anthony’s education. This photo is from 2014, when I brought him some blowing bubbles. At that time, Anthony was six and he told me he wanted to become a doctor. He also said he was learning traditional Peruvian dance and he enjoyed that very much.

Starting in 2015, Anthony started going to boarding school on the mainland so that he could receive a really good education, so he was never at home when we would spend the night at Juana and Joaquin’s home on Amantani. But this year, what a surprise. They brought him, along with his sister, to Chiquito where we had a reunion.

He showed me his school Certificate of Excellence and his parents told me what a good student he is. One of the members of our group interpreted (thank you, Rhonda!), and he told me again that he wants to be a doctor and how much he still enjoys dancing. But now he also really enjoys football (soccer).

To think that this boy from a small island, where they have almost no electricity or running water and when you take a walk you continually run into people who are herding sheep and donkeys, is going to become a doctor…this reminded me of Jorge’s son. Anthony’s energy is so sweet and pure, yet he is also a determined little boy and I can’t wait to see how this unfolds.

Another really fun thing we do every year is to go to Seminario Ceramics in Ollantaytambo. Pablo Seminario is one of the premier ceramic artists in the world, his works are displayed in various museums around the world, including the Field Museum in Chicago.

When I brought my first group in 2008, when we were returning from Machu Picchu by train after a very long day, Jorge asked me, “Would you like to go to the ceramics place?” Not having any idea of what an incredible place this was, I said no because everyone was tired.

One of the members of the group, Jennifer Watt, overheard us and said, “What are we talking about?” and I said, “That we’re not going to the ceramics place.” She said to me in her usual very direct way, “Who made that decision?” and I responded that I did. I then said if she wanted to go, we’d go and I am so glad I did. His work is so incredible and over the years, I’ve brought many of his pieces to my home and each year he speaks to our group and we have a wonderful interaction with him and his wife Marilu.

After that trip, Jen and I became great friends and in 2010, I asked her to lead my Peru trip two years in a row (I had Egypt in March, Peru in April and Bali in June, and it was becoming too much to handle), she loved Peru and she had experience leading groups. She did a fantastic job and from that, got a job leading trips to Peru, especially for high school and college students and teachers.

She has now been to Peru 54 times! And one of the things she has incorporated into the tours is an intensive piece of learning about traditional ceramics through Seminario! She, Pablo and Marilu have become great friends.

So when we were there last week, we took a photo of all of us to text to Jen saying, “Wish you were here.” Jen had just been in Sedona the week before visiting us at our home and we showed Pablo this photo of Jen and our friend Ranjita (who had been on the Peru trip with me in 2008 and again last year).

I told Pablo this is the view from our home, and he and Marilu should come and visit us in Sedona. He said, “If Jen will bring me, I will come to Sedona!”

So it’s so incredible to me, all these connections that started with this first trip and have woven their way through my life, and all these other lives, through the years. Not to mention the other close friends I have made through these trips, people who came on the trips, people I love who are a huge part of my life.

Because at the end of the day, all of this is not so much about the sites (although they are absolutely incredible), it’s about the amazing people we share them with and keep connecting with.

This year again, our group has bonded in such a beautiful, special way. One of the women said to me yesterday, “I can’t believe how I love everyone in this group and feel so close to them. Doing this with other like-minded people has just been so wonderful.

The Intricate Connections in Peru

I came to Peru for the first time in 2004 and started bringing groups here with Sedona Soul Adventures in 2008. It struck me this week, connecting with people I’ve been connecting with over the past 11 years, the intermingling of these lives and all the changes, connections and amazing things that have happened since that first group trip in 2008.

I was lucky enough back then to connect with Jorge Luis Delgado, our shaman and guide. Jorge is a master and as everyone in all my groups always say, they can’t imagine doing Peru without Jorge, that it quite simply wouldn’t be the same. That’s a photo of my fabulous 2008 group.

On my first trip in 2008, I met his wife and son, who at the time was 14, a gangly teenager, and he spoke great English. He and I started talking and sat next to each other on our bus ride from Lake Titicaca to Juliaca.

We started talking about American politics, as the 2008 election was in full swing, and Barack Obama and Hilary Clinton were slugging it out in the primaries. He asked me if I thought it was possible that Obama might be nominated and possibly win, and we had a very spirited and enjoyable conversation.

Jorge told me later, “It’s so strange, I’m not sure how this happened, he’s so interested in American politics and all kinds of things from other countries.”

Over the years, I’ve always asked Jorge how his son was doing and the news just kept getting more and more interesting. He did very well in school, went to University, then ended up living and working in Japan, spent some time in China, and learned to speak Japanese and Chinese fluently. Now this year, he decided to return to Peru and he’s working with Jorge!

He was working with a Chinese group and he came to the airport in Cusco when we were about to depart for Lake Titicaca, and we got to spend some time talking. What a joy to see and feel what an incredible young man he has become.

I asked him why he had returned to Peru and he told me, “I want to really learn all the spiritual teachings.” Isn’t that fantastic? This gangly little kid I met 11 years ago, has become a worldly, accomplished man interested in all aspects of the world, including spirituality. He said he plans to stay here for about two years and then he’ll be off to some other place in the world.

It’s reminiscent of my godson, Anthony, who I also got to see on this trip and what a joy that was. Back in 2008 when we went to Amantani for the first time (a very rustic, beautiful island in Lake Titicaca where at the time they had no electricity and no running water), we did a very special ceremony and we spent the night in the home of his family.

Anthony was 6 months old at the time, a tiny, adorable baby.

I spent a large amount of that evening holding him and at times I was crying gently and processing. His parents, Juana and Joaquin, don’t speak English, but in some way we really connected.

It turns out that two days later they were doing a ceremony with Anthony that is somewhat similar to what we know as baptism.

They asked Jorge to ask me if I would like to be a godmother for Anthony because they felt I had such a strong connection to him. They said they didn’t want any obligation from me, just the spiritual connection. I was honored and the ceremony was very beautiful.

After that, I would see Anthony every year and I’ve also happily contributed to the family and Anthony’s education. This photo is from 2014, when I brought him some blowing bubbles. At that time, Anthony was six and he told me he wanted to become a doctor. He also said he was learning traditional Peruvian dance and he enjoyed that very much.

Starting in 2015, Anthony started going to boarding school on the mainland so that he could receive a really good education, so he was never at home when we would spend the night at Juana and Joaquin’s home on Amantani. But this year, what a surprise. They brought him, along with his sister, to Chiquito where we had a reunion.

He showed me his school Certificate of Excellence and his parents told me what a good student he is. One of the members of our group interpreted (thank you, Rhonda!), and he told me again that he wants to be a doctor and how much he still enjoys dancing. But now he also really enjoys football (soccer).

To think that this boy from a small island, where they have almost no electricity or running water and when you take a walk you continually run into people who are herding sheep and donkeys, is going to become a doctor…this reminded me of Jorge’s son. Anthony’s energy is so sweet and pure, yet he is also a determined little boy and I can’t wait to see how this unfolds.

Another really fun thing we do every year is to go to Seminario Ceramics in Ollantaytambo. Pablo Seminario is one of the premier ceramic artists in the world, his works are displayed in various museums around the world, including the Field Museum in Chicago.

When I brought my first group in 2008, when we were returning from Machu Picchu by train after a very long day, Jorge asked me, “Would you like to go to the ceramics place?” Not having any idea of what an incredible place this was, I said no because everyone was tired.

One of the members of the group, Jennifer Watt, overheard us and said, “What are we talking about?” and I said, “That we’re not going to the ceramics place.” She said to me in her usual very direct way, “Who made that decision?” and I responded that I did. I then said if she wanted to go, we’d go and I am so glad I did. His work is so incredible and over the years, I’ve brought many of his pieces to my home and each year he speaks to our group and we have a wonderful interaction with him and his wife Marilu.

After that trip, Jen and I became great friends and in 2010, I asked her to lead my Peru trip two years in a row (I had Egypt in March, Peru in April and Bali in June, and it was becoming too much to handle), she loved Peru and she had experience leading groups. She did a fantastic job and from that, got a job leading trips to Peru, especially for high school and college students and teachers.

She has now been to Peru 54 times! And one of the things she has incorporated into the tours is an intensive piece of learning about traditional ceramics through Seminario! She, Pablo and Marilu have become great friends.

So when we were there last week, we took a photo of all of us to text to Jen saying, “Wish you were here.” Jen had just been in Sedona the week before visiting us at our home and we showed Pablo this photo of Jen and our friend Ranjita (who had been on the Peru trip with me in 2008 and again last year).

I told Pablo this is the view from our home, and he and Marilu should come and visit us in Sedona. He said, “If Jen will bring me, I will come to Sedona!”

So it’s so incredible to me, all these connections that started with this first trip and have woven their way through my life, and all these other lives, through the years. Not to mention the other close friends I have made through these trips, people who came on the trips, people I love who are a huge part of my life.

Because at the end of the day, all of this is not so much about the sites (although they are absolutely incredible), it’s about the amazing people we share them with and keep connecting with.

This year again, our group has bonded in such a beautiful, special way. One of the women said to me yesterday, “I can’t believe how I love everyone in this group and feel so close to them. Doing this with other like-minded people has just been so wonderful.

If you’d like to join us next year, I’d love to have you. This could be the beginning of an incredible chapter in your life. Click here and we’ll send you all the information as soon as it’s available.

And if you’d like to download my beautiful “Mystical Peru” report, Click here.

Wishing you a week filled with love and connection!

Rainbow at Machu Picchu

I feel so blessed to be back at Machu Picchu and in Peru… it’s been such a wonderful journey.

We got to Machu Picchu yesterday and the clouds had gathered. It was beautiful and misty, but when we took our traditional group photo, the clouds were completely obscuring the mountains. It was beautiful, but you couldn’t see anything!

We kept moving and suddenly as Richard and I took a picture together, the clouds parted and there was amazing Wayna Picchu.

But the best part is that as we kept moving through the site, suddenly a rainbow appeared! In all the years that I’ve been in Machu Picchu, I’ve never seen a rainbow! It was so beautiful, so magical.

As usual, our group bonded immediately and everyone was in love with each other within 48 hours. I love how that happens. What an amazing bunch of wonderful people.

And being with Jorge each day, receiving his teachings — it’s just the icing on the cake.

This year’s trip sold out and I’m sure that will happen next year as well. if you would like to come next year, Click here and we’ll send you all the information as soon as it’s available.

Sending you lots of love from Peru!

Want to Live Longer? This Will Surprise You

Are you tired of being told how you have to eat nothing but kale and constantly exercise like an Olympian in order to live longer?

Watch my video to find out what’s The Most Important Thing You Can Do for living longer — the best part is, it’s fun and it’s based on scientific studies!

Being optimistic, being happy and staying positive can be really difficult if you’re actually feeling upset, anxious and unhappy. If you need to turn that around, please call us. We will clear the blocks and gunk that are creating the problems (they’re probably different than you think!), and move you back into connection and back into the happiness and peace that are your birthright.

Call us now – Your life depends on it!

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Today I’m going to ask you some stupid questions:

Would you like to…  

  • Live longer?
  • Be happier as you’re living longer?
  • Be more concerned about being happy than about maintaining a perfect weight or exercising all the time?

I’m assuming that for most of you out there, the answers to those questions is a resounding “yes.” If it is, you might want to listen to this…


One of the things I’ve really gotten into in the last few years is studying Brain Chemistry. I’ve read lots and lots of books and articles on it, especially about how our “Reality” can be shifted and changed. What I love is that they’re written by scientists and doctors, and their conclusions are about as metaphysical as you can get.

What scientists are proving now is that people with a positive attitude live longer.

  • A study at Yale University study followed 660 people for up to 23 years that were aged 50 and older. The ones who had a more positive outlook about getting older lived 7 years longer than those who had a negative outlook about it. Here’s my favorite part: the Positive Attitude had a greater impact than Cholesterol levels, Weight, smoking, blood pressure or exercise. All the things that everyone tells us to be worried about. People need to be more worried about not being so worried.
  • A Mayo Clinic study followed 800 people for more than 30 years and found that people with a positive attitude (they termed them Optimists) lived longer than pessimists, and in another Mayo Clinic study at about the same time (following 447 people for over 30 years), the optimists felt happier, calmer and more peaceful most of the time. And they experienced less pain and felt more energetic.
  • A Duke University study of 866 heart patients found that the people who experienced more positive emotions lived on average 11 years longer than those who habitually experienced more negative emotions.
  • A study at Johns Hopkins study concluded that a positive attitude offers the best protection against heart disease, especially for people whose family history includes heart attacks or strokes. Their conclusion was that a positive attitude made a bigger difference than diet and exercise! 

It’s all about your attitude. Are you generally happy or unhappy? Optimistic or pessimistic? Do you complain…a lot? Do you get frustrated…a lot? Do you get angry often?

Or do you feel kind of ornery a lot of the time? (I love that word – my mother used to use that word all the time.)

Are you experiencing Joy and Happiness in your life?

Isn’t it wild that scientists and doctors are now proving that being happy and positive has a bigger impact on living longer and living a more healthy life than diet, exercise and keeping your cholesterol down?

I’m not saying don’t be mindful about what you eat and I’m not saying don’t exercise. What I’m saying is, you’ve got to find a way to go from unhappy to happy, from pessimistic to optimistic. Your life depends on it!

So how do you go from unhappy to happy? From generally pessimistic to generally optimistic?

What changed everything for me in my life was coming to Sedona for the first time. Many of you know my story: when I first came here, 20 years ago, I was in a really bad place in my life — hated my work, 40 pounds overweight, $50,000 in debt. 

I definitely wasn’t living my best life and my general outlook was very pessimistic. That all started to turn around after I came here for the first time and three years later, I started Sedona Soul Adventures.

You can turn your life around and enjoy a happier, more wonderful and longer life. Watch my other videos that talk about simple things you can do to get happier.  

Read my book…that will talk to you about getting happy in all the areas of your life and gives you nine different processes that you can use to shift things around.

Even better, think about coming out to Sedona to do a retreat, either a personal retreat or a Couples retreat.  

We custom design all our retreats for each individual or couple. We spend time talking to you before you come, really getting to the root causes of what’s keeping you from your joy. 

Your retreat will be one-on-one private sessions (not in groups) with some of the most incredible and experienced practitioners here in Sedona (we have over 50!). Your retreat will clear out the gunk and blocks that are holding you in disconnection and then we’ll bring you back into connection on all levels — physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

When you’re living your life in connection, you automatically come from a place of happiness and optimism. And as the scientists are now proving, that can lead to a longer and happier life.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

How to Feel Full (without calories)

Happy Easter! The day of resurrection, renewal and rebirth.

Today I want to talk to you about how to feel full – and I’m not talking about after your large Easter dinner (although if you did have a large Easter dinner, I hope it was yummy).

For me, this all started when I was so unhappy and I used to constantly say to myself, “If I died tomorrow, I’d be really pissed off.”

Listen to how that all changed around for me.

I’m talking about peace, happiness, serenity and that full and completely satisfied feeling that is possible when you’re living your life in connection.

Watch the video:

If you’re not feeling completely happy, full, content and satisfied in your life or your relationship, please give us a call. It’s all about moving out the energetic blocks and gunk, and moving you back into connection on all the levels — physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

When you’re living your life in connection, everything falls into place — you know your life purpose and you start living it, your relationships (with yourself and everyone else) support and nurture you, and everything seems to flow. If you want some of that, give us a call:

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Today I want to talk to you about Feeling Full.

Twenty years ago I was a very unhappy and dissatisfied person. I was a divorce attorney in Omaha, Nebraska and I was 40 pounds overweight. I had 2 prevailing thoughts: I hated my work and I hated my body. I felt stuck. I was 47 years old. My mother had become ill with cancer at the age of 47 and eventually died at the age of 51. My mother had also been unhappy and dissatisfied, and she felt stuck. She finally came un-stuck by leaving the planet.  

I remember thinking all the time, “If I died tomorrow, I would be really pissed off.” I remember thinking that if died tomorrow, I would have never experienced a true feeling of happiness or joy, full, deep satisfaction.

It was also interesting how that showed up with my body. Because I was constantly dieting, I felt hungry all the time. But even when I would eat, I would most often eat way past the point of feeling full. I don’t think I had experienced the feeling of feeling full or completely satisfied. At least, not enough to really know what it felt like.

And then it all changed. I came to Sedona for the first time in 1999, had a life-changing experience, left my law practice and started coming out to Sedona to do my own personal healing work. I did that for 3 years. About 2 years into that, I had the most incredible experience of sitting in my kitchen in Omaha, looking at the huge trees swaying in the wind, and this intense feeling came over me and I suddenly had the thought, “If I died tomorrow, it would be okay.”

Through all the healing work that I had done, I had suddenly and without any warning, come into a place of deep contentment. There wasn’t anything that had happened — I hadn’t seen God, I hadn’t just won the lottery and I had no idea what I was going to be doing with my life or my work, nothing at all had happened. This feeling of peace and serenity just sort of took over me.  

A few weeks ago, I had another one of those moments. I was on a plane and I suddenly had a crazy thought about the plane crashing. And I was suddenly overcome with this rush of joy and love, and this thought, “You know, it wouldn’t be my first choice, I love my life so much, but I wouldn’t be pissed off like I would have been 20 years ago. I’m so happy, I’m so full, that if I went tomorrow it would be okay.” I was so overwhelmed by it, that I started crying these tears of joy, and then my husband got concerned because he thought something was wrong. But it wasn’t wrong, it was beautiful.

The same thing happened with my body. After so many years of crazy dieting, manic exercising, buying exercise equipment and pills, working with trainers, etc., etc., etc., I had an experience that came out of the blue where I suddenly started loving my body. This had come as the result of doing lots of work and sessions, but when it came, it came very suddenly and without warning. I was shown that my body was perfect exactly the way it was. That I could be happy without being thin. This sense of joy, peace and serenity just overwhelmed me and I stopped all the crazy dieting and exercise. I just stopped.

And then here’s the kicker. The minute I did that, with no effort, the weight just started melting off, without diet or exercise. I lost 40 pounds… it just melted away. I’ve maintained that weight loss and my latest medical checkup was the best it’s ever been.

When I eat now, I instantly know when I’m full. I’m full and complete, and I just stop eating. Sometimes the plate has been licked clean and sometimes there’s still food left. I don’t over-eat something just because it tastes good, I eat to that delicious point where I feel full, complete and satisfied.

Similarly, when I stopped pushing against my law practice and healed those unhealed parts of myself, all of these incredible and amazing circumstances came together and I started Sedona Soul Adventures, which has become the most satisfying, fulfilling and delicious experience of my life.

It is so incredibly amazing what happens when we finally allow this feeling of fullness, of deep satisfaction, to finally come into our lives. Because it’s a choice. The Universe is sending us everything and we are either allowing it in or not. Before, I wasn’t allowing in these feelings of being full. I thought I had to be thin to be happy. I thought I had to have the perfect job show up before I could be fulfilled.

When I stopped railing against everything and took responsibility for my own healing, everything fell into place. Everything came into joy.  

My prayer for you is that you could experience that kind of joy in your life. And you can. It’s just gunk and blocks that are holding you back, and we can find those, eliminate them and bring you back into connection with that highest part of yourself.

When you come back into connection, you experience that sense of fullness, deep satisfaction and serenity, that we’re all craving… and that we can all have.

We had a woman here a while back and she came to us saying she felt completely shut down and she had no energy, no zest for life. She had been to a bunch of medical doctors and they couldn’t find anything wrong with her.

In her very first session, her practitioner discovered that her root chakra was completely shut down, with no energy at all. The practitioner gently asked her if she had ever had any thoughts about not wanting to live and she burst into tears saying she did have those thoughts sometimes, she said she would never do anything about it because she would never leave her young children, but that she often thought, “What’s the use? What’s the point?”  

Then her practitioner discovered that her heart chakra was completely shut down. No wonder she didn’t have any energy. She had no energy from her basic life force and wasn’t feeling love or receiving love. No life force and no love – we aren’t meant to go through life that way!

Her practitioner had to spend some extra time clearing through the gunk that was there – she said it felt like sludge –  and had to do with past life times and things with her parents… but it all got cleared so that by the end of the session, all of her chakras were wide open and moving.  

In her breath journey the next day, she told me she saw all this white light coming in through all of her chakras and she felt herself completely filled with what she called, “the light of God.” She said it was the most extraordinary experience of her life.

She called me a few weeks later to tell me that since she’d been home, she had so much energy that she was running rings around everyone!

Her husband has decided to come out for a retreat. When he called he said, “I’ll what she’s having,” just like in the movie “When Harry Met Sally.”

We get that a lot when people go home… their friends and loved ones see the changes and want the same thing.

My prayer for you is that you can experience this same sense of fullness and contentment. It’s waiting for you.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it!

Triggered by Money Issues? Watch this!

Lots and lots of people that I come into contact with – be they rich or poor – have issues with money. It’s seems to be a trigger for so many people. 

When I finally learned how to Flip the Switch around money, everything changed. Watch my video and listen to my story about the day that $50,000 fell out of the sky.
Most people don’t understand that like everything else, money is all about energy. If you’re blocked in your life in any way, you’re more than likely blocked around money as well. If you’d like to get unblocked, give us a call — we can help.
Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Money is a huge issue for almost everyone and this is really another area where you can have the most dramatic and almost unbelievable impact on your life, if you can start to figure out how to flip the switch.
If you haven’t watched my other videos, when I’m talking about flipping the switch, what I mean is getting yourself into the space where you feel good, feel happy and what you want comes easily to you. Let’s recap what I talk about in my book:
One of the truths that Einstein discovered (and that Quantum Physics continues to prove) is that Everything is Energy. Even this desk, which feels so stable and strong, is – at its core – just a bunch of particles racing around.
If everything is energy, (and now we know it is) that means that everything is much more elastic, much more malleable, and much more possible to change than we think it is.
Putting our attention on something, in any way, changes it.  
Through the years, quantum physics has proven, that we are energy.
So, if everything is energy and if putting our attention on something in any way changes it, that means we are all creating our reality in every moment.
What we focus on expands.  
We get more of whatever it is that we think about and talk about.
That is great news! If you are creating your reality, that means that you can change the parts that you don’t like – the parts that aren’t making you happy.
The final piece has to do with energy and vibration. Think of it this way:
The things that you want – happiness, peace, joy, great relationships, money – all reside in the Higher vibrational energies. Joy, peace and happiness are all much higher vibrations than depression, fear and blame. When you are a vibrational match to what you want, it comes to you. That’s what many people refer to as Law of Attraction.
So the way to get everything you want is to get in the higher vibrations, stay there, and allow it all to come to you.  
In other words…

The question is how do you get happy and stay happy?
The simple answer is: Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want.  
I’ve talked a lot about this in my other videos and now I’m going to talk to you about it with regard to MONEY.
When I was afraid about money, it could never come to me… or if it came, something else came along after to take it away.
It’s simple physics – you have to be in the same high vibration as the money. If you’re fearful, frustrated and upset about it, it literally cannot come to you.
Which makes it pretty difficult, right, because when you’re in debt or your money situation isn’t the way you want it to be, if you’re like I was, you’re thinking about it all the time… obsessing about it all the time… worrying about it all the time…
Which makes it impossible for it to come to you. It sometimes feels really unfair, like some big set up by the Universe, out to get you. I actually felt that way sometimes.
But the Universe is not out to get you. The Universe wants you to go with the flow.
When you can do that, magical things happen.
Let me tell you the story of what happened to me… the day that $50,000 dropped out of the sky…
When I first came to Sedona over 20 years ago, my entire life was a mess. I had just started my 20th year of law practice and I hated it, I was in an unhappy marriage, I weighed 40 pounds more than I do now, and I was $50,000 in debt due to some very bad business decisions.  
I worried constantly about money. It was always on my mind. I would wake up in the morning and start worrying about it and I would go to bed worried about it. By this time I had owed this $50,000 for over 5 years and no matter what I did, I couldn’t get it to go away. I would take on more cases, I was working 60-70 hours a week and I was constantly worried.
Do you see how the money couldn’t come to me because I was constantly fearful and frustrated and upset?
During those five years, I spent a lot of time praying and meditating, saying, “God, I’m so unhappy! Please tell me what to do!” Almost every time I did that I would hear a voice say, “You need to leave your law practice.” I would immediately respond, “I can’t do that! I’ve got a mortgage and two car payments! I’m the sole supporter, and I’m $50,000 in debt! I CAN’T leave my law practice!”  
So the last thing in the world I should have been spending money on at this point in my life was a spiritual retreat. But I put it on my credit card and I came to Sedona.
I came to Sedona and did one session with Ranjita – and many of you who have done a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat know how amazing she is – and in that session, my higher self appeared to me and told me I had to leave my law practice or I was going to die.
Well this time I heard the message. I went home and after two weeks of trying to figure out how I was possibly going to leave my law practice when I was $50,000 in debt, there was a day where something just happened. I was meditating and praying, and I just felt all the worry and concern just lift off me. I remember saying, “Ok God, I’m going to do this. I don’t know how I’m going to do this, but I’m going to do it, and I need some help.”
Within about 8 hours, a former client called to ask me some questions and at the end of the call, told me he had just bought a new business refinancing mortgages. I asked him if he thought he could get my mortgage payment reduced. He took my address and called me back in 10 minutes and said, “I can get your mortgage payment cut in half and I can get you $50,000 in cash.” Now I had never told him I was $50,000 in debt. He certainly didn’t know about my going into that high vibrational state where I just released the worry and concern. But suddenly, within a few hours, the worry and concern that had haunted me for 5 years was gone.
And ever since then, whenever I feel worried about money, I just stop.
Because I know these principles:
Whatever I’m afraid of, is coming faster.
Whatever I’m excited about, is coming faster.
If I’m afraid of not having enough money, I do everything I can to take myself out of that feeling, because I KNOW my fear is keeping the money away. In my other videos, I’ve given you lots of things you can do to bring yourself out of those energies, such as Tapping, Deep Breathing, Change Your Story, Change Your Life…
I never talk to people about not having enough money, I only talk about abundance.
The trick is getting there and staying there. But the key is in these three simple steps:  

  1. Get happy
  2. Stay happy

And in order to get happy and stay happy:

  1. Don’t think about what you don’t want and don’t talk about what you don’t want  

It all comes down to stop worrying about money.
Again, I know that’s much easier said than done, because I was someone who worried about it for years and years, but I’ll tell you, when you can stop worrying and instead, start getting excited about what’s on the way, money will start to flow to you.
So do this:
When you start to worry – Stop. And instead, think about how great it will be to have your money woes behind you, think about how fantastic it will feel to have your credit cards all paid, visualize your bank statement having a balance that is really large.
Feel the feeling of what it feels like to have money in savings. Feel what it feels like to have all that worry off your shoulders. Start appreciating what you have now and really feel that.
This is so deceptively simple.
It’s simple, I know it’s not easy because I’ve been there through those sleepless nights, but I will tell you, when you Flip the Switch – and you can tell when that’s happening – miracles can actually happen.
I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today.
Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.
You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

How will you score on the Relationship Checklist prepared by a Divorce Attorney?

Those of you who have been with me for a number of years know that I was a divorce attorney for over 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska. And now for the past 17 years, I’ve been doing work with couples helping them stay together. Funny, isn’t it?

Based on my over 37 years of working with couples, I’ve put together a Relationship Checklist for you. These are what I see as the most insidious things that cause the biggest problems (and issues that lead to problems) in a relationship. Some of them might not be the usual things that you think of…

Take a look at yourself, and at yourself within your relationship, as you go through the checklist.

Even if you don’t like all your answers to the Checklist, don’t despair, there is hope!

We see it all the time. Come to Sedona and do a Couples Retreat. One of our Angel Guides will speak with each of you separately, really getting at what’s going on, what the issues  are and what both of you want. Then they’ll put together the perfect retreat that’s right for the two of you. Because each retreat is completely custom designed and because the sessions are all completely private (not in groups), you’ll get exactly what you need. It will bring you back into the love and connection you’re craving.

Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

Many of you know that I was a divorce attorney for 20 years in Omaha, Nebraska. Then I came to Sedona in 1999, closed my law practice 6 months later and started Sedona Soul Adventures in 2002. Since then, our Couples Retreats have saved so many marriages (and spiced up so many more!). Isn’t it funny how that instant karma has worked out? I spent 20 years divorcing people, now I’ve spent 17 years helping them stay together!  

After so many years of working with couples who were either divorcing, on the verge of divorce, or just trying to be more connected (and everything in between), I’ve seen the same things over and over again, and they aren’t necessarily the things that books and magazines talk about.  

So I’ve put together a Relationship Checklist for you. These are what I see as the most insidious things that cause the biggest problems (and issues that lead to problems) in a relationship. Some of them might not be the usual things that you think of. Take a look at yourself, and at yourself within your relationship, as you go through the checklist…

Do you respect each other?  

Do you respect your partner and does he or she respect you? There’s a big difference between feeling a crazy kind of love for someone and deeply respecting them. I’ve seen so many couples who have a passionate love for each other, but when it comes right down to it, they don’t respect each other. Do you respect your partner? Do you feel respected by your partner? If you don’t, the relationship is on its way to being over.  

If you have a healthy respect for each other, you give each other the benefit of the doubt even when things get tough. You’re quicker to forgive those little transgressions, knowing that you basically hold your partner in high esteem.  

Do you like each other?  

This may seem almost the same as respect, but it isn’t. You can like someone and not respect them because you don’t think they’re a good person. You can also respect someone because they hold high values, but you don’t like them.  

Do you actually like your partner? Do you think they’re a good person? Do you enjoy hanging out with them?

Last year I spoke with a man who told me he was completely, totally surprised when his wife told him she wanted a divorce, he couldn’t believe it. Later, I found out they weren’t going on vacations together for the last 5 years of the marriage because it was too unpleasant. If you can’t even go on vacation together and have a good time, something is wrong!

If you don’t like your partner, you’ve got a problem. If the thought of being with them when you’re 80 years old makes you wince, that’s telling you something is not right.  

If you genuinely like your partner and like spending time with them, you have a much greater chance that you are going to make it through the long haul and through difficult times, and spend the rest of your lives together.  

Do you fight fair?  

The way that you disagree with each other says so much about your relationship. Some psychologists believe they can predict the success or failure of a relationship simply by watching a couple have an argument about something.  

When you disagree, do you stick to the subject you are disagreeing about, or do you bring up stuff that has nothing to do with what you’re arguing about? Do you find yourself using phrases like “you always do this…” or “you never do this”? Fighting about something other than the current issue is not fighting fair and leads to huge build up of resentment. Resentment is poison to a relationship.  

You can disagree and have an argument, and still come from the basic love that you have for each other. Being respectful while you disagree, really listening and trying to understand the other person’s perspective, while sticking to the subject at hand can actually bring you closer together as a couple.

Can you really talk to each other?  

Does your partner “get” you? Can you talk to them about pretty much anything and have it be okay? Do they know all the little weirdnesses about you and love you all the same? Or do you hide things from them? Do you tell them how you truly feel?

I spoke with a man a year ago who told me his 30 year marriage had come down to “I go along to get along.” He wanted to do a Couples Retreat, but his wife didn’t want to. I spoke with him again a few weeks ago and things are worse (things like this never get better unless they are dealt with).

When your partner feels like they have to hide how they’re feeling and can’t be honest with you, they start to shut down emotionally. That’s when the love starts to stop.  

When you know you are safe with your partner, that they will love you no matter what, love continues to grow and thrive.  

Are financial issues a problem?  

Financial issues show up in a number of ways — from there not being enough money, to one person being a spender and one person being a saver, to disagreements about how money should be spent. In this modern age, we also see a lot of situations where there is an imbalance, especially when the woman makes more than the man.  

Money issues are a hot button for many people, and usually have a deep connection back to childhood. Money issues bring up all the different things we’ve already talked about — not communicating, not fighting fair, not liking the other person because they’re a miser (or a spendthrift), not respecting the other person because they’re not responsible with money, etc., etc. Money is usually just the tip of the iceberg of deeper problems below the surface.  

When money isn’t an issue in your marriage, you’re free to bring in all kinds of abundance in your lives… not just financially, but emotionally and spiritually as well. It indicates that everything is flowing as it should be.  

Do you have each other’s back?  

I attended a couples workshop in Sedona almost 20 years ago and during a very emotional part of the workshop, one of the men said to his wife, “I’ve got your back.” Later, we broke up into our male and female groups and as we women gathered, a number of us remarked at how much that had touched us. About half of us said (through tears) that we had never felt that way in our relationship.  

It can be a tough world out there and knowing that there’s at least one person who has your back is an incredible and amazing gift. And I will tell you after all these years of working with couples, it’s something that I don’t see very often. There isn’t that deep level of trust, of knowing that your partner will be there for you no matter what.  

This trust, this knowing, seems to me to be the Secret Sauce of healthy relationships — really knowing that your partner will be with you through thick and thin. For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death does you part. It’s like a rare, exotic flower that must be cultivated and cared for.  

And it’s funny, because the woman who did the Couples workshop 20 years ago, my dear friend Ranjita, is also a minister, and she and my dear friend Yana officiated at our wedding a little over a year ago. Unbeknownst to us, she added a portion to our ceremony where she literally had us stand back to back and pledge that we have each other’s backs. It was very sweet and very powerful.

My prayer for you is that all of your answers to the above questions were the “right” answers. That you have fabulous communication, you can be completely honest with each other, and there are no hidden agendas or resentments.

If that’s NOT the case, I would urge you to do something about it – and do it now. My experience is that these things only get worse over time. Once the milk starts to curdle, there’s no turning back. It just smells worse and worse until you finally have to throw it out. And throwing it out is such a painful thing to do, when it’s your relationship that’s being thrown out.  

We had a couple here awhile ago and he told me at the end of their Couples Retreat, that he thought it was hopeless and that he had already planned on filing for divorce when they returned home from Sedona. He had even hired the attorney, because he thought there was no way the marriage could be fixed.

At the beginning of the retreat, he was telling all of us that all of the problems were with his wife and he wanted us to “fix her.” Even though we discussed with him 4 separate times before they got here that it’s usually not about one person, it’s usually about both people, he kept telling us, “No, just wait until you get us together, it’s all her.”

After we did some clearing sessions with both of them separately, he suddenly burst into tears in his private session and said “Oh my God, it’s all me! I’m the one judging her and and wanting her to be someone else, even though I actually love her. It’s just like my mother used to do to me, I’m disapproving and judgmental.”  

They came back into a love for each other that they hadn’t felt for years and they even did a re-commitment ceremony out in the beautiful Red Rocks of Sedona.

The marriage was completely resurrected and they came back 6 months later to spice it up even more. When you’ve got the love, the trust and the spice, you’ve got it all!  

And even if all your answers feel like the “wrong” answers, they’re actually not! This is not saying that your relationship is over. This is valuable information that is showing you where you need to put your attention. You just need to do it while you can still salvage the relationship, that’s the key.

There is hope! We see it all the time. Come to Sedona and do a Couples Retreat. One of our Angel Guides will speak with each of you separately, really getting at what’s going on, what are the issues and what do both of you want? Then they’ll put together the perfect retreat that’s right for the two of you. Because each retreat is completely customized and because the sessions are all completely private (not in groups), you’ll get exactly what you need. It will bring you back into the Love and Connection you’re craving.

I hope this helped, and if you got value from this video, please take the time to like it, share it with someone in your life who think might get something out of it, subscribe to our channel.

And If you want an even more direct path to having the relationship of your dreams, click here to get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today.

Or if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that’s custom designed for you call us at (928) 204-5988.

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

How to Have the Relationship of Your Dreams

In my new video, I talk about how it’s pretty much impossible to have unconditional love all the time and how the things you think are causing the problems in your relationship, probably aren’t what’s really causing the problems. Watch here:
How’s your relationship doing? Does your beloved “get” you?
If not, are you having the same arguments over and over? That means you have to do something and you need to do it now.
There’s nothing more awful than a relationship that’s not working and there’s nothing more wonderful and blissful than when you finally have the relationship of your dreams — and I know that’s possible!
If you’re relationship is not all that you want and need, give us a call. We’ll speak with both of you and tap into where the problems are and what you can do to turn it all around. We’ll custom design a retreat for exactly what the two of you need and desire, to bring you back into the love, connection and bliss that you’re craving.
Or if you’d prefer, call us toll-free at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or click here and one of our Retreat Guides will call you.

I want to talk to you today about, How to Have the Relationship of Your Dreams. Because I know from my own experience, that it’s possible.  
Everyone talks about unconditional love, but have you ever really given that, except possibly to a baby? It seems we can do it for a little while, but then those darn old conditions start coming in, don’t they?  
“If he would just (fill in the blank), then I would be happy”  
“If she would just let me (fill in the blank), then I would be happy.”  
After all these years of working with couples (20 years as a divorce attorney, 17 years with Sedona Soul Adventures), I’ve finally decided that what we all really want is for someone to GET us. To know everything there is to know about us (all the good stuff, all the “bad” stuff, all the weird stuff) but even after all that, they still love us and want to be with us. For me that is truly the definition of unconditional love.  
And the quickest way I’ve found to get there is this — If you want the relationship of your dreams, you need to take the other person off the hook.  
With all the couples retreats that we’ve done over the years, the theme that we see over and over again, is that each person isn’t loving the other person for who they truly are. They say they love them, but they simply want them to be completely different! They want us to “Fix” them – have them change so that they can love them.  
In every moment, we can either choose love or something else — upset, fear, jealousy, frustration. How do you want to live your life? I highly recommend living it from Love.  
The problem is, most people don’t know how to do that. When something happens, we don’t have the tools to communicate our hurt and our loss to our partners in a way that they can receive it, and we don’t know how to let go of the hurts of the past that still haunt us. Sometimes people are holding onto things that happened long ago in the past.  
When I was a divorce attorney, I had a case where the people were both 75 and they had been married for over 50 years. I wanted to have them go into marriage counseling and so did the other attorney and the judge. The marriage counselor spent two months with them seeing them every week and she finally contacted all of and said, “There’s nothing I can do. They are both still really, really angry over things that happened over 40 years ago and they just can’t get beyond it.” And it wasn’t huge things, like infidelity… one of the things was something about buying an expensive vacuum cleaner! I’m sorry, but it’s just not worth busting up a family over a fight about a vacuum cleaner.
Last year we had a couple who came here and their marriage was pretty much over. They had been together for over 20 years, they have 2 beautiful children in high school. They started out really loving each other, but over the years, they had grown completely apart with many different interests that seemed incompatible. The sizzle was completely gone and worse, their respect for each other had been eroded by things that had happened in the past, especially from some nasty fights that had taken place, where words were said that couldn’t be taken back.
They had actually separated and she had already contacted a divorce attorney. In a last ditch effort, he convinced her to come to Sedona to do a couples retreat. Their goals were different — he wanted to save the marriage, she wanted to make the divorce go more smoothly. They were both miserable and unhappy.  
In their first couples session, they both acknowledged how much they had loved each other over the 20 years they had been together. They also identified when things had started to go off the rails, which led to his feelings of inadequacy and her feelings of disrespect toward him.  
Then they both did separate Emotional Clearing sessions…
In her session, she realized how she was living out a pattern of her mother disrespecting her father. She came to a huge realization that her mother’s disrespect of her father had triggered feelings of inadequacy within her. This often happens when parents disrespect each other, because children have this innate knowing that their mother is part of them, their father is part of them. So when her mother disrespected her father, she began to (unconsciously) believe there was something wrong with her.
She had never dealt with these feelings of inadequacy. All of that was cleared out, and then her practitioner helped her clear out all the pain and grief she had accumulated over the last few years when the marriage was falling apart. She told me she felt like this huge weight had been lifted.  
In his emotional clearing session, he realized that her disrespect of him had triggered his own feelings of “not enough.” His practitioner dug deep and they discovered an event that had happened with his father. In a moment of frustration and thoughtlessness, his father said to his 6-year-old son, “You’re worthless.” This had cut deep into him, in a way he never understood until then. He had unconsciously held onto that pain all these years.
He experienced a similar release as his wife, with lots of crying, that he said felt so cleansing. He told me, “I was always taught that men aren’t supposed to cry, but I can’t believe how good that felt, to finally let go of all that.”  
Both of them were triggering each other’s unhealed feelings of inadequacy.
It’s the ultimate irony, isn’t it? That the person who is “supposed” to love us the most, is actually triggering these deep feelings of not-enoughness? But that’s the nature of relationships. Our deepest relationships trigger our unhealed parts and bring them up for healing. It’s the crucible – burning off the impurities to get to the gold of a healed heart.  
Most people don’t understand that this is really what’s happening in our relationships. It’s not so much what the other person is “doing” or “not doing” – the other person is triggering old wounds that are coming up for healing. Wounds that usually happened in childhood and don’t even have anything to do with our partner.
But the really amazing part for both of them came in their breath journeys, which they each did separately.  
The Breath Journey took her into the altered state very easily and suddenly she saw her mother (who had passed away many years ago). In that moment, her mother seemed to be the embodiment of love. Her mother communicated her deep love for her and also her deep love for her father. She had this huge realization that, “Everything is all about love,” there really isn’t anything else that matters. Suddenly, she felt her heart burst open with the deep love for her husband that had always been there, but had just been covered over with the slings and arrows of the past few years. She saw an image of she and her husband walking together in what appeared to be some sort of paradise, blissfully happy.  
In his breathwork session, he saw lots of images and colors, which intrigued him because he doesn’t think of himself as very visual, very creative or very spiritual, so this was a really new experience for him. And then suddenly his father was there with him. His father communicated his deep love that he had for his son. He also communicated that his son needed to become more of a man. Not a macho type of manliness, but the man who takes care of his woman and takes care of his family, and lets them know he is there for them. He realized he had abdicated this role and that his wife no longer felt cared for by him. He said it was the strangest thing, but that after the session, he actually felt “stronger.”  
After these amazing clearings, healings and realizations, they then came together for a Couples session. Both of them were so full of love for each other, they were almost bursting. Their marriage was completely restored. Along the way with their other sessions, they received tools for continuing to have all of this continue to go deeper and to maintain, especially through deep and honest communication.  
The best part was that after they went home, they continued to use the tools and their love just came through deeper and deeper. They came back again a few weeks ago to take their relationship to an even deeper level and they’ve never been so happy. They both said the most amazing thing was that some of the same things are still going on as before — their interests are somewhat divergent and there are issues with work. But for both of them, it just doesn’t matter. They’ve taken the other person off the hook. They both feel loved and respected by the other, and that’s the most critical piece for both of them. The smaller issues just don’t seem that important any longer.  
I love this so much. It’s so incredible what can happen when we finally release the wounds of the past and move into love. It changes everything.  
How is your relationship doing? Is it blissful and fabulous, or are you just going through the motions? Are you “going along to get along” or are you happily and deeply in love? Do you feel loved, respected and cherished?
Make the decision to come back into love.
The problems that you are facing may actually be the result of wounds from the past, rather than that person who you think is doing things to hurt you.  
Connect with us and let’s find out. Let’s find out what’s blocking you from having the relationship of your dreams. It may be something completely different from what you think it is. Whatever it is, we can help you both come back into love within yourselves and with each other.  
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