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Free Masterclass “Opening To Your Intuition” Saturday at 9 am Pacific

All of us have the ability to connect with the Highest part of ourselves and tune into our intuitive abilities. It just takes a willingness, a belief that it’s possible and trust that the information you’re getting is coming from your Highest Self. It’s simple (but not necessarily easy), so I hope you’ll join us for our very last Masterclass of the season – “Opening To Your Intuition – an Introduction,” with Master Practitioner Komala Rohde.

I’m so excited about this Masterclass that I have decided to offer it free to all of you. I feel it’s such an important topic, and Komala is such an incredible teacher.

Over the millennia, intuition has been defined as an inner sensing, as gut feeling or instinctive knowing. In recent years, science has begun to map the human intuition system and in the Masterclass, Komala will review modern insights about intuition.

So many people feel blocked from their intuition and she’ll talk about ways to move through that.

Komala is such an amazing person. She is originally from Germany and first trained as a naturopathic doctor. She has been practicing meditation for over 40 years. For the past 10 years, she has been involved with researching and practicing principles of neuroscience in connection with mindfulness, consciousness and creating a resilient brain.

She has been a Master Practitioner with Sedona Soul Adventures since 2004 and is a Certified Professional Coach and Neuro-Transformational Coach, so the depth of knowledge and wisdom she brings to this is really phenomenal.

It will be fun and informative, and I hope you’ll join us.

Reinventing Yourself for a Better Tomorrow – Masterclass Series
Opening To Your Intuition – an Introduction
with Komala Rohde
Saturday, February 6, 2021
Noon Eastern • 11 am Central • 10 am Mountain • 9 am Pacific
(If you can’t join us live, we will send a recording)

If you’re already registered as part of the series, you don’t have to do anything and I’ll see you on Saturday!

If you need to register Click here and you’ll receive all the information for meeting on Zoom.

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Sue was afraid Sedona Soul Adventures was “too good to be true,” but says it was “amazing” and “a reality that I healed significantly in 4 days”

Isn’t this amazing? So many people who come to us are like Sue. Situations in their lives start to take their toll and beat them down to the point where, as she said, “I had nothing left in me to deal with this situation and other parts of my life were also starting to suffer.”

And that’s the most insidious thing. We have a problem in one area of our life and suddenly it’s affecting all the areas of our lives.

I went into the office to say hello to Sue during her Orientation and I could feel her hopelessness. She couldn’t even allow herself the belief that a miracle could happen. When we’re that beaten down, miracles don’t seem very possible.

But a miracle is exactly what happened! She didn’t think it was possible, she thought the idea that she could have a significant healing was “too good to be true,” but it turned out it was true! Isn’t that fabulous?

Are you feeling overwhelmed and stuck and beaten down and hopeless? If so, let us help.

Or let’s say you’re not feeling beaten down, but you want to take your life to the next level – we’re even better at doing that!

Or let’s say your relationship isn’t as juicy and amazing as it once was or worse, you’ve got some serious problems going on. Did you know that we were named Best Marriage Retreats in the US five years in a row?

Did you know we were named Best in Sedona for 2020 for Retreats? It’s because we are the best.

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Give us a call. Speak with one of our Angel Guides. They’ll start the process of bringing you from where you are to where you want to be. And remember, there’s no cost or obligation and you can do the retreat either here in-Sedona or At Home.

Call us today at (928) 204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a retreat?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!

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The Peru trip is almost sold out!
Join us June 17-30
100% Refundable through April 1, 2021

“The entire Peru trip was fantastic, I would recommend it to anybody if they want to go to Peru, this is the kind of vacation to take. In the future, I won’t be able to travel any other way — it’s so much more meaningful to bond with the group, sharing a spiritual purpose, with a wonderful guide. You have the best of all possible worlds, all your daily needs met, no worries about train schedules or hotel reservations, and the benefit of a guide that is supporting your spiritual path. I didn’t want to leave Machu Picchu…”Linda Gunther

If you want to go, now is the time to decide. The trip is selling out fast. And please remember, it is 100% Refundable through April 1, 2021.

The trip is 100% refundable up to April 1, 2021 so that any deposits or other funds you have placed, will be completely refundable, no questions asked.

“My trip to Peru was a life altering experience. I laughed, I cried, I experienced new dimensions.” ~ Laura McConnell

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If you have questions, please send them to me directly at Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com.

Or call me — (928) 301-2896 — I love talking about Peru!

Wishing you a week filled with all your dreams coming true!

Best Executive Retreats 2021

No two people are the same, which is why we custom-design each of our Executive Retreats to meet your specific issues, needs, timing, and budget. Over the years, we've found some retreat themes that keep recurring.

Choose which is right for where you are in your professional life.

The Best Executive Retreats in 2021 from Sedona Soul Adventures

Best Executive Retreats in 2021 for Women Executive

You’ve made it to the top. You played the game, climbed the ladder, and reached the pinnacle of success.

But if you’re like a lot of female executives, you’re not as happy as you thought you’d be. You realize that your accomplishments have come at a steep price…

You may feel disconnected from yourself, from Source, and from those who matter most to you.

Perhaps you feel as though you’ve shifted too far into your masculine energy, and as a result, now you feel “out of whack.” 

Or maybe you recognize that in the push to grow your company and achieve ever-greater levels of success, you’ve lost touch with who you really are ... leaving you feeling empty, dissatisfied, and completely unfulfilled.

You’ve lost your drive and passion. And you’re wondering if you’ll ever get it back -- or find your life purpose.

You know it’s time for a change. You’re ready to start listening to the little voice that’s nudging you to seek more – and to take a new approach to finding your answers.

You may be tempted to schedule a group executive retreat. But executive retreats too often focus heavily, if not exclusively, on the business side of life. Who you are and how you’re feeling as a person are far more important, because your authentic self is the foundation for your effectiveness as an executive.

A private executive retreat may be the answer you need to discover the connection, freedom to be yourself, and sense of empowerment you’re seeking. 

Unlike group retreats, where you’re forced to follow the same schedule as everyone else, your private retreat with Sedona Soul Adventures is completely custom-designed for where you are - and where you want to go. 

We work closely with more than 50 different Master Practitioners in Sedona and will hand-select those best suited to serve you. All of these carefully vetted practitioners have decades of experience, ensuring that your retreat delivers life-changing experiences and lifelong memories.

By receiving the full benefit of our practitioners’ attention and energy during private sessions -- conducted face-to-face here in Sedona or on Zoom during an At Home  retreat -- your development can be accelerated dramatically. It’s not unusual for clients to report that they feel like different people by the end of their retreats.

To learn more and explore what your custom-designed executive retreat might look like, schedule a complimentary, no-obligation Retreat Planning Session with one of our retreat consultants.

Call 928/204-5988 now, or click here and we’ll call you!

Best Executive Retreats in 2021 for Male Executives

You’ve reached the pinnacle of corporate success. Yet, despite having checked off all the accomplishments you thought you wanted, you find that you’re still not happy.

Instead, you feel irritable, constantly angry, and trapped by your responsibilities.

Or perhaps you feel empty, dissatisfied and unfulfilled - and out of touch with who you really are.

Or maybe you’ve experienced a major upheaval. Now your mind buzzes with distracting chatter … making it nearly impossible to tune into the intuition that used to serve you so well.

You recognize that you’re overdue for a change. You know it’s time to listen more carefully to the voice deep inside pushing you to seek more … and to explore new ways to uncover the answers you need. 

An executive retreat may seem like the answer. But too often, executive retreats focus so much on the business side of life that your personal development is overlooked or completely ignored.

A custom-designed executive retreat may be the answer you need to discover the happiness, relief and freedom to be that you’re seeking.

Group retreats are designed to serve a group of people. What you need as an individual isn’t taken into consideration.

A private executive retreat with Sedona Soul Adventures, on the other hand, is designed specifically for where you are - and where you want to go. 

We custom-design your retreat, selecting from the more than 50 different Master Practitioners in Sedona with whom we work. These professionals each have decades of experience, which practically guarantees that your retreat delivers powerful experiences, life-changing transformation, and incredible memories.

These highly skilled professionals are able to connect you with the powerful transformation energy of Sedona -- whether you’re working with them in person in our beautiful town or meeting them on Zoom during an At Home retreat.

By the end of your transformational journey, you’ll feel lighter. Freer. Clear about where you’re headed and filled with passion, happiness and peace. 

Your next step in planning your custom-designed Executive Retreat is to schedule a complimentary, no-obligation Retreat Planning Session with one of our retreat consultants. 

During this confidential, complimentary, and no-obligation conversation, you’ll be invited to talk openly about where you are professionally – and where you want to go. 

Call us now at 928/204-5988 or click here and we’ll call you! 

Best Executive Retreats in 2021 When You’re Ready for Something New

At some point, most business executives reach a place where life, as they know it, isn’t working anymore.

Perhaps you’ve reached the height of your professional career only to find that you’re not as happy as you thought you’d be.

The things you used to enjoy simply aren’t satisfying you. You’re just going through the motions, wondering if THIS is really all you can expect from life.

The drive and passion you once felt have been replaced with restlessness, discontent, and an inner longing for something more.

But what comes next?

A custom-designed, private Executive Retreat will help you find the answers you’re seeking.

By stepping away from the demands and confines of your daily life, you’ll get the space and clarity you need to hear what your inner wisdom is trying to tell you … and gain clarity and passion as the phase of your path is revealed. 

When you schedule a private Executive Retreat with Sedona Soul Adventures, we’ll custom design an experience to meet you where you are. We carefully select from the more than 50 different Master Practitioners in Sedona with whom we partner. They’ll bring decades of experience to your retreat, ensuring that you receive life-changing experiences, experience deep transformation, and create lifelong memories.

You’ll also be able to choose whether to visit us in person here in beautiful Sedona or participate in a virtual retreat using Zoom from the comfort and convenience of home. Either way, our highly skilled practitioners will connect you with the powerful transformational energy of Sedona.

By the conclusion of your retreat, you’ll be reconnected and realigned with your inner self, with a clear vision of your future path to a life of joy, satisfaction and fulfillment. 

To explore whether a Sedona Soul Adventure is right for you, schedule a complimentary, no obligation Retreat Planning Session. Just call us at 928/204-5988 or click here and one of our Executive Retreat Consultants will call you. 

Best Executive Retreats in 2021 to Recover From a Tough Year

You’ve been put through the ringer. It’s been more than just a few too many rough days at work. You feel like you’ve been in a battle, and now you’re physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted.

Perhaps the business has hit a rough patch, or you had to let a key employee go. 

Maybe you were passed over for a promotion or plum assignment.

Or perhaps you’ve had to lead your team through a tough business challenge.

No matter what you’ve faced this year, it all boils down to one thing: You're burned out. You’ve been sucked dry of drive, passion and purpose. And you know that vacation isn’t going to be enough to fix the weariness and unease you feel in your bones. 

If this sounds like you … 2021 is the time for your private Executive Retreat.

We work with over 50 Master Practitioners in Sedona. And we’ll carefully hand-select the ones who can best facilitate the transformation you want and need.

Our private retreats are custom-designed to meet you where you are…and then facilitate your recovery and growth so that you leave feeling stronger, more clear, and in alignment with your higher self.

Use your retreat to withdraw from the hectic pace of professional life and indulge in restorative treatments. Your Executive Retreat Consultant will work closely with you to learn what you most need from your retreat and then carefully select the sessions and practitioners who can help you achieve the results you want to experience.

You’ll also be able to choose between an in-person retreat here in Sedona -- or a convenient At Home retreat where you’ll work with practitioners on Zoom. 

Either way, you’ll be connected to the powerful energy of Sedona -- and wrap up your retreat feeling rested and rejuvenated … deeply connected with your true self, your life purpose and your passion.

To explore what your custom-designed Executive Retreat could look like, call 928/204-5988 now to speak to your Executive Retreat Consultant, or click here and your Angel Guide will call you today! This call is complimentary and no obligation.

Best Executive Retreats in 2021 to Rediscover and Express Yourself

Many executives find that leading a successful business career – whether in the 

corporate world or as an entrepreneur – requires them to put on an invisible mask. 

Caught up in playing the executive role, it’s easy to lose sight and connection with who you are as an individual. As a result, you’re left feeling empty, dissatisfied, and completely unfulfilled.

Deep down, you long for the freedom to rediscover – and then express – who you really are. You want to connect with others on a deeper emotional level. 

But you just don’t know where to start.

A private Executive Retreat will give you the time and space you need to shed the mask and armor you wear as a business leader … and create the shifts you need to get in touch with your soul. 

And the transformative energy of Sedona is the perfect “magic ingredient” to help you get clear on your life purpose and rediscover your true nature and purpose.

Sedona is home to hundreds of master healers and practitioners drawn to the area’s powerful transformational energy. We work closely with more than 50 of these Master Practitioners, all of whom are able to connect you with Sedona’s energy - whether you’re meeting with them face-to-face or connecting on Zoom during an At Home  retreat. 

No matter what your custom-designed Executive Retreat looks like, you’ll conclude it feeling in touch with your authentic self, clear about your purpose and what you want to accomplish during the next phase of your life, and confident about moving forward.

Your journey begins with a complimentary, no-obligation phone call with one of our Executive Retreat Consultants. We’ll explore where you are, what you’re experiencing, and what’s holding you back. 

Call us at 928/204-5988, or click here and we’ll call you!

Best Executive Retreats in 2021 to Restore Balance

Does life seem like a never-ending cycle of “all work and no play”?

Do you feel disconnected from yourself, the Source and from the people who matter most to you?

Are you in desperate need of a reset -- in body, mind and spirit?

Throughout your career as an executive, your personal life and needs have always taken a backseat to your responsibilities as a business leader. 

You find yourself locked in a perpetual state of overload and stress. As your unhappiness grows, it’s begun to spill out to affect all aspects of your life … from your relationships to your health and even your financial and professional success.

You’re ready to rediscover your passion and zest for life. But you may not know what shifts you’re supposed to make – or even what it is that would make you happy.  

A private Executive Retreat will provide the transformation and space you need to restore balance and realign on the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual levels.

Some executives find the supportive and nurturing experience of a Sedona Soul Adventure the perfect incubator in which to get clear on their life purpose and rediscover their true nature. 

Others recognize Sedona Soul Adventures as a “spa” for the heart, mind and soul where they can withdraw from the hectic pace and demands of normal life and reconnect Spirit and their higher self.

We work with more than 50 Master Practitioners in Sedona. After learning more about where you are in life and your experiences, we’ll connect you with the right people to help you get clear on what you want to achieve and connect you back to a balanced state. 

These gifted practitioners are able to serve you -- and connect you with the powerful transformation energy of Sedona -- no matter where in the world you are.

You may wish to travel to our beautiful town for in-person sessions. Or you can connect with your practitioners on Zoom from the comfort and convenience of an At Home retreat.

Either way, you’ll end your retreat feeling rejuvenated and refreshed-- realigned with your inner self and ready to break through to a new level of satisfaction, happiness and fulfillment. 

Call 928/204-5988 now to speak to your Executive Retreat Consultant or click here and your consultant will call you today! This call is complimentary and no obligation. 

It’s almost mind blowing to even think of living a life like this, because almost no one does

This week I’m getting everything all together to leave for our Egypt trip in 4 weeks and I came across a beautiful papyrus, which is a depiction of the Last Judgment. You see this scene all over Egypt in carvings and temples and papyrus.

The ancient Egyptians believed that at the time of your death, your heart would be weighed against a feather. If your heart was lighter than the feather (meaning you had lived a good life and weren’t weighted down by evil), you would enter into Paradise and live out eternity with the Gods and Goddesses.

However, if your heart was heavier than the feather, that meant you had not lived a good and honorable life, and your soul would be devoured by the jackals. In the scene above, you can see that the person’s heart was lighter than the feather (whew!) and to the right, you can see Thoth, the god of writing and knowledge, noting this in what we would call the Akashic Records.

What I love most about this papyrus and all the other aspects of ancient Egypt, is that it conveys the essence of ancient Egyptian life, which is that everything revolved around their connection with their spirituality. Everything they did, every decision they made, was completely focused on the spiritual aspect of their lives.

So if you died tomorrow and the ancient Egyptians are right about the Last Judgment, what would happen with you? Would your heart be lighter than a feather? Would you be able to pass and party on with the Gods and Goddesses into eternity?

What if you lived your life with the idea that there is a higher purpose for your life? A greater knowing? A higher way of being?

We spend so much time focused on the day-to-day-ness of our lives. Doing our email, working, dealing with the kids, our partners, bosses, employees, cooking, cleaning, worrying about the pandemic… It doesn’t leave much time for anything else. It certainly doesn’t leave much time for connecting in with the highest part of ourselves and accessing the Divine.

Would your life be different if you put just a little bit of focus on your life as a spiritual person? I think it would. It’s amazing what happens when you come from that perspective, even just a little bit.

You’re calmer.
You’re more relaxed.
You don’t worry as much.
You start to have an innate knowing that everything will work out.

Can you imagine having your life be calmer, more relaxed, with less worry and this basic trust that everything will be okay? It’s almost mind blowing to even think of living a life like that, because almost no one does it.

We had a woman come here awhile ago to do a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat. She has a demanding job, two demanding teenagers and a demanding husband. The pandemic made her life even more busy, not less.

This was the first time she had ever done anything for herself in her entire life. Although she wanted to do a four day Soul Adventure, the most she was able to squeeze out from her busy life was three days and we told her that would be enough.

When I went in to greet her during her Orientation, she got 3 phone calls in 15 minutes. One from her job, one from one of her children and one from her husband. This was a Friday and she was going to be here Friday, Saturday and Sunday, and return home on Monday.

To each of them she said something close to, “I love you, but you’re going to have to figure this out, I can’t do anything about it from here.” She got off the third phone call and started crying, saying, “This is my life. This is why I don’t have any peace. I’m so afraid I’m going to go home and everything will be exactly the same and nothing will have changed. My nerves are shot, I can’t take this anymore, I’m just ready to run away.”

I invited her to take a deep breath and to stop focusing on what would happen when she got home. To just focus on how wonderful the next three days would be. Secretly, I shared her concern because I know what it’s like to have so many demands placed on you, to have people that you love and care about and a job that you care about, all pulling at you all the time.

Over the next 3 days, she had the most amazing experience. In her Enneagram session, she discovered that she is a Two, a people pleaser who had the distorted belief that she has to do everything for everyone else in order to be loved. She said when she discovered that, it explained everything about how she does her life. In her Emotional Clearing session, there was this old stuck energy left over from her childhood (where, as the oldest girl, she had to take care of everybody); the energy was cleared out and she said she felt “20 pounds lighter.”

But her breath session was the most amazing. She felt that she went completely into an altered state and suddenly, her mother (who passed away 2 years ago and for whom she was still grieving) came to her in a vision. She said there was this instant feeling of forgiveness from her mother for things she’d been feeling guilty about.

And then her mother conveyed to her (without words) that it was most important for her to take care of herself so that she could be there for her family in a balanced way. She “got it,” that she can take care of herself and still be a devoted wife and mother and effective at her job. She said she never felt so much love for herself in her entire life.

She had a delicious massage, did an amazing ceremony out on the Red Rocks and learned a meditation that she could take home and do in only 9 minutes each day. Her final Integration session put it all together and when I spoke with her as she was on the way to the airport she said, “I feel like a new woman. I’m so peaceful and calm and I know I can keep this going.”

After she’d been home a month, she called me to say that she is completely amazed at how her Soul Adventure has changed her life. She’s doing the 9-minute meditation every morning (“I just get up 10 minutes earlier”) and she’s done another breath session since she’s been home.

“Things still happen at work and with the kids and my husband, but it’s not driving me crazy anymore. I don’t feel like I have to do everything. It’s the most amazing thing. I just spend a little time each day focused on the spiritual side of my life and it makes all the difference because it affects all the areas of my life all day. My husband can’t believe it!”

She said she feels more love for her husband and for her kids (and for herself!) than she ever has.

So without knowing it, she’s “walking like an Egyptian” (remember that old song?). She’s focusing on the spiritual side of her life and it’s making all parts of her life richer and fuller. She’s happier, more peaceful, more content, and her relationship with her husband and her children (and herself) is better.

She said she feels like she’s even getting more work done in a faster amount of time! And she probably is. When we’re operating in connection on all the levels — physical, mental, emotional, spiritual — all areas of our lives just function better.

How about you? Would you like to be happier, more peaceful, more content and improve your relationships? It sounds like a tall order, but that’s exactly what happens when we live our lives in connection. Speak to one of our Angel Guides. They will connect with you and custom design a retreat that will bring you the peace and contentment you’re looking for in your life or your relationship.

Click here and one of our Angel Guides will call you. Or if you’d prefer, call us at (928) 204-5988.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!
Remember, you can do it in-Sedona or At Home.

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Diane says she “never imagined she could be feeling so much lighter, clearer and overflowing with so much peace, joy, love and light”

“This was not only my very first retreat, but also the first time going away completely alone. From the beginning of my journey to its completion, I was filled with such support… joy… and love. All I can say is I never imagined after such a process, I would be feeling so much lighter… clearer… and overflowing with so much peace… joy… love and light! What an amazing experience!”
~ Diane S., Vero Beach, Florida

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The Machu Picchu trip just got better

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Three new people have joined the Peru trip and they demonstrate one of the reasons why the trip is so wonderful – the amazing people who go. It’s so wonderful to spend 2 weeks, not only with our amazing shaman, Jorge Luis Delgado, but also to be with other like-minded adventurers who are interesting, fun and spiritually focused.

One couple just came here to do a Sedona Soul Adventures retreat and they had an incredible time. We had the most wonderful conversation about spirituality, living our best lives, creating our own reality and this amazing world we live in and now they’re coming on the trip.

Last weekend I had the most fun conversation with another woman who’s decided to come. We talked especially about the amazing ceremonies that we do on the trip and we had the most wonderful conversation about living a joy filled life.

So these are the kinds of people who come on this trip. Being with these kind of people is not only amazing and rewarding, but typically what we find is that many people form wonderful long-term friendships. I love it that a number of my own friends are people who I first met coming on my trips.

And if you don’t have someone to travel with, that’s not a problem. What always seems to happen on these trips is that we have a few couples, but the majority are people traveling as a single (even if they’re married or in a relationship, because their partner isn’t interested in Peru). And that’s what’s happening with this trip. We have two couples and the rest are singles. So you’ll have lots of people to hang out with.

Plus, our groups are all in love with each other after 2 days, it’s so wonderful!

“Our sacred journey to Peru was more than we had hoped for, and was made all the more special by the people – Debra, Jorge Luis, and most importantly, the group of strangers that we met on the first day who became lifelong friends by the end of the two weeks. The trip was incredibly well-run, deeply spiritual and life-changing.”
~ Clayton Smith, Canada

Join me on this incredible journey! For all the information click below:

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The trip is 100% refundable up to April 1, 2021 so that any deposits or other funds you have placed, will be completely refundable, no questions asked.

“My trip to Peru was a life altering experience. I laughed, I cried, I experienced new dimensions.”
~
 Laura McConnell

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If you have questions, please send them to me directly at Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com.

Or call me — (928) 301-2896 — I love talking about Peru!

Wishing you a week filled with your highest dreams!

3 Reasons to NOT Do Resolutions and What to Do Instead

It’s January 3rd and if statisticians are correct, many of you have probably broken at least some of your New Year’s Resolutions by now.

But don’t despair, I believe resolutions don’t work and research backs that up.

Here’s the vital question: How can you be happier at the end of 2021?

I stopped doing New Year’s resolutions 22 years ago. The day I decided to do that (or not do that), I felt such a huge relief. And believe it or not, that was one of the most amazing and productive years of my life.

Instead, I do something else (more on that below).

But first, as promised, here are the 3 reasons why I’m advocating you should NOT do New Year’s Resolutions:

1. They don’t work – people don’t keep them
Studies show that only 8% of Americans have stuck to their New Year’s Resolutions by 6 months out. I think it’s actually worse than that. My favorite “New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work” story is from one of my friends who owned a restaurant in Omaha, where I used to live. They had great food and a fabulous salad bar, and over the years, they discovered that on January 2, people ate twice as much salad, because they were acting on their resolution to eat healthier and lose weight. However, by January 3 it was already back to normal, with people ordering the same amount of cheeseburgers, fries, etc. as they had before. Their resolve was only good for one day!

2. They’re so negative – they make you feel bad about yourself
Even though the resolution can be couched in positive terms, such as “I resolve to eat healthier” or “I resolve to be more organized,” what people are actually doing in these situations is going over the behavior they are telling themselves they shouldn’t be doing. “I should stop eating like a pig,” “I should stop being a couch potato.” Even thinking those things about yourself is negative and counterproductive, and doesn’t lead to change.

3. They’re too general and not specific enough – they’re not juicy
Most people are making vague and general resolutions like “I’m going to lose weight,” “I’m going to get more healthy,” “I’m going to be less stressed.” All of these are too general, not specific and not measurable. Getting more specific — “I’m going to lose 25 pounds” or “I’m going to practice yoga twice a week” — tells the brain exactly what you want to have happen and it’s measurable.

But let’s face it. The worst part of most resolutions is they just sound so boring. “I’m going to lose weight” or “I’m not going to spend so much money”… They’re boring, not fun, not juicy. That’s why they don’t work. There’s not enough juice to get you going, to get you excited, to get you to take action.

So here’s what I recommend: Set the intention to do something – ONE THING – that’s going to trip your trigger, rev you up and get you excited.

Really spend some time thinking about what is one thing you could do this year that would really make a difference in your life?
That would really make you happy?
That if you did it, you would look back at the end of the year and think, “Wow! Now that was a productive, amazing year.”

It doesn’t have to be a huge thing like achieving world peace, but it needs to be something that interests you, that excites you, that would make you think and feel differently about yourself.

The amazing thing is, that if you do something like this, it will make the usual resolutions start to fall into place. For example, let’s take something big — if you decide you want to run a marathon this year (when it’s finally safe to do that), you will accomplish the following resolutions (which happen to be the top resolutions people make). You will…

  • Get healthier
  • Stop smoking
  • Drink less
  • Probably lose weight
  • Not feel like a couch potato
  • Feel less stress
  • Probably play fewer video games and watch less TV
  • Probably spend less money on things you don’t need
  • Probably make new friends

And you would do it (at least most of it) feeling happy, excited and jazzed, which, of course, is the real reason behind resolutions in the first place — to feel happier at the end of 2021 than you did at the beginning.

And let’s face it, 2020 has been such a downer in so many ways, that it probably won’t take much to have you feel happier at the end of it, so why not really jump in?

What trips your trigger? What gets you revved up? What gets your juices flowing?

Maybe a better question is: What’s holding you back? What’s preventing you from having the most amazing, incredible, fantastic year of your life?

For most people, the answers are: time, money, my job, my family, my husband, my wife, my kids… And now we’ve added COVID to the list.

But what if you didn’t allow for those things to hold you back this year?

The year I stopped making resolutions was the year I started coming to Sedona and doing sessions with the amazing practitioners here. I started the year unhappy, depressed, overweight, hating my work, stressed out, burned out and feeling completely stuck. I ended the year so happy I almost couldn’t see straight!

I started that year thinking and feeling that my life was a total mess. I ended the year feeling so blessed and taken care of. It’s amazing what can happen in the space of a few months.

Did this year make you happier? If it didn’t, are you going to do something about it for next year? This is the decision that is at the heart of all New Year’s resolutions — What can you do to feel happier at the end of this year?

If you want to feel happier at the end of 2021, do what I did and do a Sedona Soul Adventure. The changes and transformations that can happen are almost unbelievable. And you can do it in-Sedona or At Home, both will deliver incredible transformations for your life or your relationship.

And the amazing thing is, you won’t have to wait all year to feel better. It can happen in 3 or 4 days! And you’ll feel better, the whole rest of the year!

Speak to one of our Angel Guides – they’ll connect with you (or both of you for a Couples Retreat) and start the process of figuring out what’s holding you back, what’s causing the problems, what’s keeping you from having the life or relationship of your dreams? Then they’ll custom design a retreat that will make this the most amazing year of your life. And remember, there’s no cost or obligation and you can do the retreat either here in-Sedona or At Home.

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Call us today at (928) 204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!

“Sedona Soul Adventures was the best thing I have ever done for myself. I had seen the emails for years and longed to go but never made the commitment. When stress was overtaking my life and getting so out of control, it was the only place I felt I could turn to. It was an act of survival to get myself balanced again. Being a mother of two young children and working full-time, I needed to take some rest and reenergize. It was better than I could have ever imagined it to be. The techniques I learned and the “AHA” moments gave me new life again. Trust me, everyone benefits with a better you. Thank you Sedona Soul Adventures.”
Janet B., Illinois

Click here to read more 5 star reviews on Trustpilot.

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The Peru trip is almost sold out! 100% Refundable!

Linda says “the entire Peru trip was fantastic,” 
“the best of all possible worlds”

“The entire Peru trip was fantastic, I would recommend it to anybody if they want to go to Peru, this is the kind of vacation to take. In the future, I won’t be able to travel any other way — it’s so much more meaningful to bond with the group, sharing a spiritual purpose, with a wonderful guide. You have the best of all possible worlds, all your daily needs met, no worries about train schedules or hotel reservations, and the benefit of a guide that is supporting your spiritual path. I didn’t want to leave Machu Picchu…”Linda Gunther

If you want to go, now is the time to decide. The trip is selling out fast. And please remember, it is 100% Refundable through April 1, 2021.

The trip is 100% refundable up to April 1, 2021 so that any deposits or other funds you have placed, will be completely refundable, no questions asked.

“My trip to Peru was a life altering experience. I laughed, I cried, I experienced new dimensions.” ~ Laura McConnell

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If you have any questions about our trip, send me an email at Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com or call me – (877) 204-3664 – or call my cell – (928) 301-2896. I love talking about Peru! 

If you already know you want to go on the trip, you can make your deposit – Click here.

So please join me on this trip of a lifetime.

Wishing you a week filled with new beginnings!

Vicki’s life-long problem was solved in 3 days on her At Home Retreat

It’s so amazing what’s happening right now with our retreats. We have people coming to Sedona and we have people doing At Home Retreats. I have to be honest, when we first started doing the At Home Retreats, I was worried – could they really deliver the same kind of transformations?

I’m happy to say, the answer has been a resounding YES from the very beginning! And I should have known better than to have doubted, because of how our Proven Process works:

  • We’re finding and moving out the old, gunky energy that’s holding you back
  • Bringing in the new energy of connection on all the levels (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual); and
  • Giving you the tools so you can keep on doing that over and over again.

We do all this utilizing the powerful, transformational energy of Sedona and that’s the part I shouldn’t have doubted:

All my practitioners are such Masters at utilizing this energy
and moving this energy into everyone they work with,
so it doesn’t matter whether you’re in their healing space or your own living room.

Look at what happened with Vicki:

By Day Three of her At Home Adventure, we had figured out what was underneath this problem that had plagued her from the time she was a little girl. We moved out that energy, brought her into connection, gave her the tools and by Day 4, the problem is handled and even more importantly, she says she knows now how to handle the problem from now on.

Isn’t that fantastic? Find it, clear it, stay in connection, that’s what we do over and over. Our Process is so powerful and it pretty much works every single time!

And I absolutely love this message from Pam about her At Home Soul Adventure:

Look at what happened to her during her At Home Retreat:

  • She moved a tremendous amount of Gunk out of her life and her energy
  • She feels free from her past
  • She feels forever changed
  • She’s happier than she’s ever been

And as Pam says, DO IT NOW! This is one of the things we keep seeing over and over again in the retreats we are doing right now. With the pandemic, everyone is coming to us saying things like:

“Life is too short for me to live an unhappy life.”
“I’ve got to do something about this now.”
“We have to change the way we do our relationship. I love him/her, but we can’t keep living like this, things have to change.”

The pandemic has made almost all of us really take a look at our lives and our relationships. And everyone I’m talking to feels this need, this urge, to really start living their best lives. And nobody wants to wait another year or so to make that happen — and you don’t need to!

We don’t have control over the virus. We don’t have control over lockdowns, shutdowns and restaurants closing, and places going out of business.

But do you know what you DO have control over? You have control over how you’re going to react to things and you have control over whether you’re going to feel great or feel lousy.

It might not feel that way right now. When we’re still all full of gunk and negative energy and old wounds and hurts from the past, we don’t think we have control over anything, much less our negative thoughts and feelings. But I’m here to tell you, just like with what happened with Pam, when you clear out all that old gunk and old energy, you’re happier and you’re excited for each new day.

Wouldn’t it be great to feel excited and happy again?

People are also telling us they especially love doing the At Home Retreats, because they get to stay home in their familiar surroundings, have their dog with them, wrap themselves in their cuddly blanket, all adding to the experience.

And don’t get me wrong, the At Home Retreats are fabulous, but coming to Sedona is also wonderful. We are following CDC Guidelines, we’ve been open again since May 15 and everyone has been safe and happy. Look what happened for Sarah who was just here last week:

Sarah came to us:

  • Confused
  • Drained
  • Not knowing what to do in her life
  • Feeling unworthy and unloved

After her Soul Adventure she feels:

  • Rejuvenated
  • Full of life
  • Positive
  • Full of self love
  • Understanding herself on a deeper soul level
  • Opened up to a whole new way of thinking and being

How would you like to feel rejuvenated and full of life and positivity? Wouldn’t that be fantastic? Especially after all the stuff that’s gone on this year?

Give us a call and speak with one of our Angel Guides. They’ll connect with you and start the process of figuring out what’s holding you back from having the life or the relationship of your dreams. And then they’ll custom design a retreat of private one-on-one or two-on-one sessions (for couples) designed to take you from where you are to where you want to be.

Remember, there’s no cost or obligation to speak with an Angel Guide and you can do your Soul Adventure in-Sedona or from the comfort of your own home with your cuddly blanket.

Call us today at 928-204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!
And remember, there’s no cost or obligation.

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Join us for our Return To Egypt Tour
Plus We Need A Female Roommate
February 13-26, 2021

I’m getting so excited about the Egypt trip! And we also need a female roommate — could that be you?

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Luckily, unlike here in the United States, the COVID numbers in Egypt are very low. Their tourist season is underway and in fact, one of my friends was just there with a group and had a fabulous time! Also, Egypt is requiring everyone to have a negative COVID test 72 hours before entering the country. That’s one of the ways they’re keeping it under control.

We have one of our people who would like a roommate (female). That will save you the $1200 cost of having your own room in the hotels and on the Nile Cruise. Could that be you?

Can you believe this is going to be my 21st trip to Egypt?!? It’s just astounding, and I have to say I’m so incredibly excited about this next trip, it’s like it’s the first time all over again!

We go to all the must see places:

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  • The Great Pyramid (where we’ll have 2 hours of private time for ceremony just for our group)
  • The Sphinx
  • Karnak
  • Luxor
  • Abu Simbel
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But we’ll also be going to places the average tourist doesn’t always see:

  • Isis Temple at Philae
  • Temple of Abydos
  • Hathor Temple at Dendera
  • Horus Temple at Edfu
  • The Osirion
  • Temple of Kom Ombo

And Guardian Travel has made special arrangements for us to see:

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  • The Tomb of King Tut in the Valley of the Kings
  • The Tomb of Seti I in the Valley of the Kings
  • The Tomb of Queen Nefertari in the Valley of the Queens! (this photo)
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To see the actual tomb and the mummy of King Tutankamun is so amazing. We will also see the treasures of the tomb in the Egyptian Museum in Cairo. King Seti I’s tomb is absolutely spectacular and Queen Nefertari’s tomb (she was the favorite wife of Ramses II) has been called, “The Sistine Chapel of Egypt.” Very few people are allowed to see these tombs, so this is a very special part of our trip this year.

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Plus, one of the most important parts of this trip is doing ceremonies and meditations, and really connecting with the energy of this sacred place. Can you imagine having two hours of private time just for our group inside the Great Pyramid? This is on the last day of our trip and it’s always astonishing, and one of the major parts of this life-changing trip.

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We’ll also be discussing the alternative theories of ancient Egypt that our tours are famous for, including who built the Pyramids, who built the Sphinx (and when) and why are there carvings of a helicopter, a tank and a submarine in the walls of the Temple of Abydos? Can you see them in this photo?

And just the way we do everything!

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  • We stay in 5-star hotels; our hotel in Cairo is the fabulous Mena House, which is right next to the Pyramids.
  • For 5 days we cruise the Nile on our 5-star cruise ship.
  • The food is fantastic.
  • Everything is completely taken care of for you – each day is beautifully planned.

And we just have fun. Here’s a picture from our galabaya night on our cruise ship when we dress like an Egyptian (fun fact: these two wonderful people (Pete and Kirsty) met on the Egypt trip, married one year later and now have two children!).

Amazing things happen on this trip!

The price is virtually all-inclusive. It includes:

  • Round trip air from JFK
  • 3 flights in Egypt
  • Breakfast, lunch and dinner each day
  • 5-star hotels
  • 5-day, 5-star Nile Cruise
  • All transportation
  • Admission to all sites
  • Our Egyptian guide (who reads hieroglyphics!)
  • Tips for hotel and wait staff

The only things that aren’t covered are your beverages and flight to New York and, of course, shopping.

And speaking of shopping, that will be even more incredible this year. Currently the conversion rate of the US dollar is incredible. The conversion rate is 15.1 to 1, meaning 15 Egyptian pounds per American dollar. This is a major difference from the past few years when the exchange rate was 3 to 1. This incredible rate is going to mean unbelievable shopping in Egypt this year. Egypt is well known for gold and silver jewelry, papyrus, alabaster, hand blown glass, perfumes and oils, and hand made rugs made of cotton, wool or silk. This is going to be even more spectacular this year.

And to go on a journey like this with like-minded travelers – it’s just the icing on the cake. Don’t be concerned if you don’t have a companion to travel with – our groups are typically in love with each other within 48 hours, making friends that last a lifetime. And if you want a roommate, we can probably arrange that for you.

If you want to look at all the details on the trip:

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And while you’re on our web page, watch my brief video on what makes the trip so special.

For information on the Day to Day Itinerary – Click Here

For all the information on Pricing – Click Here

If you already know you want to go, Click here to place your deposit.

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If you have any questions about our trip, send me an email at: Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com

Or feel free to give me a call. Here’s how:

  • Cell: 1-928-301-2896
  • Office toll-free: 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada)
  • Outside the US and Canada: 001 928-204-5988

Or Click here and I’ll call you – I love talking about Egypt!

I hope you’ll join me on this trip of a lifetime!

Wishing you a week filled with excitement for things to come!

Everything Will Be All Right In the End

So much is going on right now, that I think everyone needs to hear this message:

“Everything will be all right in the end.”

And if you’re still lounging around today at the end of the Thanksgiving weekend, I have another one of my “Best Spiritual Movies” for you: “The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel.”

For me, it’s delightful (and spiritual) for two reasons:

1. It shows how 6 people can be in the exact same situation and surroundings, and have completely different experiences (from horrible to amazing).

And…

2. The mantra of the young Indian character which is so absolutely true — “Everything will be all right in the end. If it’s not all right, then it’s not the end!”

Watch my video… I hope you enjoy it:

As I say in the video, I know that sometimes just saying a happy mantra isn’t going to fix your life, sometimes you need more than that. 

It’s all about moving out the Gunk and the Blocks that are holding you in disconnection and then moving you back into Connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. The specific ways are different for each person. That’s why we custom design retreats for exactly what you need and that’s why they are so powerful and effective.

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Call and speak with one of our Angel Guides. They’ll have a deep conversation with you about what’s going on in your life or your relationship. They’ll talk with you (or both of you for a Couples Retreat) about your deepest needs and desires. Then they’ll custom design a retreat that will take you from where you are to where you want to be.

Remember, there’s no cost or obligation to speak with an Angel Guide and you can do your Soul Adventure in-Sedona or from the comfort of your own home.

Call us today at 928-204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!
And remember, there’s no cost or obligation.

Wishing you a week filled with knowing that all is well!

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Hi, I’m Debra Stangl, founder of Sedona Soul Adventures and International bestselling author of The Journey To Happy, coming to you again from incredibly beautiful Sedona, Arizona – and I’m so happy you’re here with me.  

In these series of videos I’m talking about concepts from my book 

“The Journey to Happy– How Embracing the Concept that Nothing is wrong can transform your life”.

Today I’m continuing my series of talking to you about my favorite spiritual movies. Movies that you might not necessarily think of as spiritual, and I’m doing this series for two reasons: 

  1. I love the messages these movies have.
  2. Watching a movie can very often, just immediately make you feel better. 

One of the things that I talk about a lot in my book is that when you start to feel yourself starting to slip and just starting to not feel great, that’s when you need to do something, anything, to start making yourself feel better… like listening to music, petting your dog or your cat, or watching a movie that makes you laugh or feel good. 

So this is one of those movies for me. It’s called “The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel.” 

I love this movie for two reasons: 

  1. It shows how 6 people can be in the exact same situation and surroundings, and have completely different experiences (from horrible to amazing) 

and

  1. I love the mantra of the young Indian character which is absolutely true (hang on for a moment, I’ll get to it). 

So the movie is about 6 older British people (all incredible actors like Maggie Smith), all of whom are retirement age and think they are going to retire to an amazingly beautiful hotel in India that has been set up for people in their golden years. But then when they get there, the place is completely dilapidated, doesn’t have proper plumbing and the food is making almost all of them run to the restroom constantly, etc., etc., etc. 

But it is so incredible to watch the reactions of these 6 different people. For some of them, the colors and smells and intensity of India are amazing and fascinating and fabulous and an incredible learning experience. For the others, it is horrible and nasty and dirty and awful and they can’t wait to get away. The ones who are negative, basically stay negative, but for the ones who are open and interested, it is a transformational, fantastic experience. 

And isn’t that how our lives are? Haven’t you been in situations where for some people, it’s wonderful and fabulous, and for others, the exact same situation is terrible and awful? It’s such a lesson in the fact that it’s not about what’s going on outside — it’s about what’s going on inside.  

Many years ago I read in one of Wayne Dyer’s books where he said, “When you squeeze an orange, you get orange juice.”

So what comes out of you when you get squeezed?

Complaints? Blame? Anger? 

Or Interest? Wonderment? Enthusiasm?   

Like I always say, it’s always an inside job. And it’s always about how you decide to look at things and experience things.  

Now here’s the second part I love: The young Indian man who is trying to run the hotel (in the face of the obstacles of fixing up the hotel and wanting to marry the woman he loves), is constantly saying, “Everything will be all right in the end. If it’s not all right, then it’s not the end!”   

Isn’t that great?

It’s so true, isn’t it? Don’t you find in your own life, that most often, things just really have a way of working out? Don’t you find that the things you’re most worried about never happen? 

When we have that knowing, that deep belief, that All Is Well, everything really is working out, that everything really will be all right… It’s amazing what a difference it makes in moving through the trials and tribulations that we all face each day. 

So I invite you to keep saying that to yourself: “Everything will be all right in the end. If it’s not all right, then it’s not the end!”   

Now I get it, sometimes just saying a happy mantra isn’t going to fix your life. Sometimes you need more than that.  

How are you feeling right now? 

Does life sometimes feel overwhelming for you?  
Do you sometimes feel no matter what you do, you can’t get out from underneath it all? 
Do you feel like there’s nothing you can do about  it?

Well, I’m here to tell you there is something you can do about it. Your life can be transformed if you’re willing to take responsibility for your life and your creations. The way you perceive the world and the way you move in the world can be changed in an instant. I see it all the time and it is truly miraculous. 

It’s all about moving out the gunk and the blocks that are holding you in disconnection and then moving you back into connection on all the levels – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. The specific ways are different for each person. That’s why our custom-designed retreats are so powerful and effective 

So call us – connect with one of our Angel Guides and let them design a retreat that can bring you back into the knowing that All is Well. It can change your life. 

If you’d like, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Spiritual Retreats today. 

Or even better, if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that will turn your life around, call us at (928) 204-5988.  

You can have the life  AND the relationship you want – I know it.

This year sucked…and other things to be grateful for this Thanksgiving

“This whole year has sucked!! I’m not thankful for anything!!”

I have heard so many people say that recently and I certainly understand where it comes from.

The pandemic has affected everyone all around the world.

The election and the polarization of our country seems to just be getting worse…

But I want you to stop and think for a moment and ask yourself this question:

What’s happened to YOU this year?

With everyone with whom I’ve had this conversation, when they’ve stopped and really thought about it, the answers have had a great deal of similarity. All of this stuff that’s been going on has made them stop and really think about the big questions:

How do I want my life to be? 

How do I want my relationships to be?

It felt before like all of us were running around like crazy people, rush, rush, rush and things just kept getting nuttier and nuttier.

One of the things that has been so amazing with the pandemic is that for a little while, the entire world stopped. It just stopped! And for the first time ever, we had something that affected the entire world! That’s never happened before in the history of the planet, not even during the world wars. One thing that affected everyone worldwide.

The whole planet just had to stop. And reflect.

And what I’ve been seeing ever since then, is that almost everyone I’m coming into contact with has realized some things:

  • Life is short
  • Life is too short for me to not be living my life in the way I want
  • Life is too short for me to not be living my Life Purpose
  • Life is too short for me to not be having the kind of relationships I want
  • I want relationships that nurture me and make me happy, and life is too short for me to settle for anything less than that

It’s so interesting how when you get clear on that, suddenly so much stuff falls away.

Things that you thought you “had to do” either can’t be done in the same way or you don’t do them and you discover the sky doesn’t fall.

You start telling people in your life the truth about what you want and you’re amazed to find out they love you and want to support you in being happy.

All of this is exactly what we’re seeing in our retreats right now. Individuals who are coming are clear they want to start living their best life. See this Trustpilot testimonial. Mathew (not his real name) says: 

“I feel like I have completely reset my entire being to a place of peace, clarity and best of all, Love.”

And I love how Jill says:

“I know my whole family will benefit from the transformational work we did during our time at Sedona Soul Adventures.”

And she’s so right! It not only transforms your life and the life of you and your partner, the transformations affect everyone around you. The biggest referrals we get are when clients go home and their friends or spouses or co-workers say to them, “What happened to you?” And then the friend calls us and says, “I want me some of that!”

Don’t get me wrong, this has been a very challenging year. But isn’t it fabulous that for so many people, all of this has given them a huge knowing of what they DON’T WANT. And knowing very clearly what you don’t want is the first step of knowing and manifesting what you DO want. And for those who are willing, this can be turned into a time where you can get what Mathew got:

“A re-set of your entire being into a place of peace, clarity and best of all, Love.”

And can you imagine going into 2021 with a sense of clarity and peace? About all aspects of your life? All of that and more are possible. I love it so much (and you’ll see it when you read it) that so many of our Trustpilot reviews say, “My Soul Adventure was so much more than we expected!”

Call and speak with one of our Angel Guides. They’ll have a deep conversation with you about what’s going on in your life or your relationship. What are the parts that are working? What are the parts that aren’t working? They’ll start the process of figuring out where the problems are and what needs to be done. They’ll talk with you (or both of you for a Couples Retreat) about your deepest needs and desires. Then they’ll custom design a retreat that will take you from where you are to where you want to be. 

Life’s too short to be living an unsatisfying life. 

Life’s too short to be in an unhappy, unsatisfying relationship.

Remember, there’s no cost or obligation to speak with an Angel Guide and you can do your Soul Adventure in-Sedona or from the comfort of your own home.

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Call us today at 928-204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!
And remember, there’s no cost or obligation.

Wishing you a week filled with counting your blessings – and Happy Thanksgiving!

How to Turn Around a Painful Relationship Breakup or Breakdown

There is almost nothing more emotionally painful than the breakup or breakdown of an important relationship in our lives, whether it’s a spouse, partner, lover, family member, friend, boss or any relationship. In this Masterclass you will learn how to:

  • Bring Yourself out of the Pain of a Relationship Breakup or Breakdown
  • Prevent Relationship Breakdowns Before They Happen
  • Become A More Empowered Partner
  • Be the Best Partner To Yourself

Sarah Gallway has been a Practitioner and Transformational Life Coach for Sedona Soul Adventures for many years and she says “one of the tools I love the most to use in my ‘Relationship Rescue’ sessions is turning painful relationships around into empowered relationships.”

The breakup or breakdown of a relationship is not only heartbreaking, it’s gut wrenching. Often the stressful thoughts, feelings and stories can consume us for days, weeks, months and even years with ongoing regrets, blames, hurts and resentments. The challenge is in finding a reliable way to turn around our hearts, minds and spirits back to a place of understanding and balance that can heal the relationship and ourselves. This Masterclass will be showing you how to transform those stressful and painful relationships back around to a place of healing, understanding and self-empowerment.

WHAT PARTICIPANTS WILL LEARN IN THIS RELATIONSHIP MASTERCLASS

  1. You will learn how to do the Relationship process for turning around painful relationships. We will be inviting participants to choose and write down a particular relationship break up or breakdown they would like to work with that has been painful or stressful, that they would like to “turn around” to a healing and breakthrough.
  2. Preventing Breakdowns Before They Happen: You will also learn how to use the Relationship process to rescue and repair your relationships by catching the signs of stressful tensions building before painful breakdowns happen. You will learn how to catch negative thoughts, beliefs, and stories that can push your relationship away by triggering the very people you want cooperation from. This process shines the light on what is creating disconnect and turns the relationship around to insightful ways to solve differences.
  3. How to Become A More Empowered Partner: You will discover insightful and creative ways to turn your role around in stressful relationship situations, so that you are no longer a victim to the circumstance of the relationship, but in the process of becoming a wiser, smarter, and more resourceful partner in accessing what you need to say, be, or do to create a more workable and fulfilling relationship.
  4. How To Be the Best Partner To Yourself: One of the most healing and valuable “turn arounds” of all in this process is learning that instead of waiting on your relationships to provide the loving and caring that you need to happy, you can turn that around to being the most loving and caring partner you can be to yourself and set yourself free from needing to micromanage or control other’s behaviors to get there. It also turns out to be the key to creating healthier, happier, and more well-balanced relationships. Learn how!

This is going to be a powerful Masterclass – I hope you can join us.

If you haven’t been joining us on the Masterclasses, I really want to encourage you to do this one. Here are the options:

  • Register just for this one Masterclass (cost is $37), Click here
  • Register for the entire series and get access to all the recordings (cost is $97 or less than $5 per class – BEST DEALClick here

If you want to get more information on all the amazing Masterclasses over our 20 week series, Click here.

And remember that we know times are tough for many of you out there. That’s why we’ve provided scholarships. If that’s your situation, please Click here for the scholarship information.

Reinventing Yourself for a Better Tomorrow – Masterclass Series
Turning Around Painful Relationships
with Sarah Gallwey
Saturday, November 21, 2020
Noon Eastern • 11 am Central • 10 am Mountain • 9 am Pacific
(If you can’t join us live, we will send a recording)

If you’re already registered, I’m so glad and I’ll see you on Saturday!

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Stephanie says “Our Couples Retreat not only saved our marriage but improved our entire lives!”

Wow! Look at this review that came in from Stephanie about their amazing Couples Retreat – it came in on Trustpilot while I was writing this newsletter! Look at all of the things that happened here:

  • They healed
  • They became aware of their authentic selves
  • They gained insight into each other
  • They went into acceptance of each other
  • They got rid of blame
  • They brought in respect and love
  • They’re excited for their future
  • Their entire lives have been improved
  • THEIR MARRIAGE WAS SAVED

This is the secret to our Couples Retreats. We not only work with you as a couple, we work with you individually to dig out the kinks, the wounds, the hurts, the resentments that are causing the trouble in the first place. Would you like to have all of the above happen in your relationship? Get rid of the blame and come into love and respect with each other? If so, give us a call.

Speak with one of our Angel Guides and they’ll dig deep to start the process of figuring out where the problems are and what needs to be done. They’ll check in with both of you to talk about your deepest needs and desires. Then they’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for both of you to bring you back into the love and connection that brought you together in the first place. Life’s too short to be in an unhappy, dissatisfying relationship.

Remember, there’s no cost or obligation to speak with an Angel Guide and you can do your Soul Adventure in-Sedona or from the comfort of your own home.

Call us today at 928-204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!
And remember, there’s no cost or obligation.

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Learn a Simple Easy Technique for Ending Insomnia on my
Meeting The Masters interview with Dr. Dyan Haspel-Johnson

Are you one of the millions of people on this planet who just can’t get a sound full, restful night’s sleep? Or do you know someone who suffers from insomnia?

This week’s guest on Meeting the Masters is a Psychologist who teaches self hypnosis for healing. Dr. Dyan Haspel-Johnson shares how she overcame insomnia and the chronic health challenges it created with Self-hypnosis.

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Dr. Haspel-Johnson shares the key things you can do to improve your sleep tonight and is giving away her free video and ebook, “The 3 Biggest Things That Cause sleep Problems & The ONE Thing You Can Do by 3pm Today to Sleep Better. Her free gifts include access to her meditations at a discounted rate for our viewers!

Check out her free gifts and be sure to watch the interview.

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Only a few spots left for our Return To Egypt Tour
February 13-26, 2021 – 100% Refundable

I came across this email yesterday and I thought it would be fun to send you what I sent last February when we were in Egypt. What a trip down memory lane!

And it’s so funny, Sherrilene (below on her camel) is coming to Sedona to do another Adventure in a few weeks. Richard and I are going to take her out to dinner at the fabulous Mariposa Restaurant, which is where we got married, surrounded by red rocks three years ago. I love how so many of my Sacred Travelers become life-long friends. We can’t wait to see her!

I’m so excited for our next trip February 13-26, 2021! There are still some spots available and we’d love to have you join us!

Here’s what I sent last February 23 (wow, that seems like a long time ago!):

We have had the first few days of our fabulous Egypt trip! People from all over the country and Canada are here with us and as usual, we’re having the time of our lives on this amazing journey.

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We have had the first few days of our fabulous Egypt trip! People from all over the country and Canada are here with us and as usual, we’re having the time of our lives on this amazing journey.

We always start right out with a camel ride to the Great Pyramid. Woman in orange on camelThey are so sweet and it’s so magnificent to just look up and there’s the Great Pyramid! Every year it’s just so stunning to be in the presence of this amazing structure that is so full of mystery.

Here’s Sherrilene getting a nuzzle from one of the camels! She came on a Soul Adventure last year and said to me “I must go to Egypt!” and now here she is! I love how that happens with so many people!

The camel guys always get a kick out of taking pictures of us kissing on our camels!

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And then it was on to the Sphinx, and this year we took a lot of photos playing around with the Sphinx.

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Here’s me kissing the Sphinx.

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And now the Sphinx is kissing my hand.

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This is a new one and it’s my favorite – me putting sunglasses on the Sphinx!

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Isn’t that fun? As I said, that was only 9 months ago, it feels like so long ago with everything that’s happened this year! Another reason I’m so excited to go again in February!

Egypt has the virus under control and one of the things they are doing is requiring all people to have a positive test 72 hours before they come into the country. Isn’t that smart? And we can get a rapid test at JFK, which is where we all meet to fly to Egypt.

If you’d love to go on this trip of a lifetime, click below for all the information:

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And remember, the trip is 100% refundable up to December 14, 2020.

For information on the Day to Day Itinerary – Click Here

For all the details on Pricing – Click Here

If you have any questions about our trip, send me an email at Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com.

Or feel free to give me a call. Here’s how:

  • Cell: 1-928-301-2896
  • Office toll-free: 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada)
  • Outside the US and Canada: 001 928-204-5988

Or Click here and I’ll call you – I love talking about Egypt!

If you already know you want to go, Click here to place your deposit.

Wishing you a week filled with with peace and calm!

Karen was on a Search for Self Love…and Found It!!

We just started doing our One Day Soul Experiences this year and they have been nothing short of amazing! Of course, if you want your life completely 1000% transformed or your marriage saved, that definitely requires our full blown Soul Adventures which are 3-4 days.

But I have to tell you, people are having incredible things happening with their One Day Soul Experiences. Karen came here 3 weeks ago and read how she is still feeling the transformations:

Here are all the things I love about her beautiful words:

  • She’s on a self-love quest and she found self love!
  • After her experience, she finds it much easier to access her Divine Spirit
  • She’s no longer doing any negative self talk
  • She feels freer
  • She received so many tools that she’s using daily
  • She waited to write this until 3 weeks after returning home and the effects are still with her big time!

This gives you an example of what can happen on one of our One Day Soul Experiences. Now as I said earlier, if you have really deep wounds and need a complete power washing of your soul, then you need to do a 3 day Soul Adventure. Or if you and your partner are about to call it quits or you’re having really serious problems, then you need to do a full blown Couples Retreat.

But look at what can happen with one of our One Day Soul Experiences:

To be able to get clarity and direction in your life – what a gift!

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a Soul Adventure?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!

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Call us today at (928) 204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

One of our Angel Guides will connect with you (or both of you for a Couples Retreat) and we’ll go deep, to discover what’s holding you back from having the life or relationship of your dreams. We’ll custom design a retreat that’s perfect for you and you can do it in-Sedona or from the comfort of your own home, wrapped in your fluffy blanket.

Go to Trustpilot If you’d like to read more of our reviews, and remember, Trustpilot is a third-party, independent service who verifies each review to make sure it’s actually written by one of our clients.

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How To Connect With Your Higher Self Masterclass Sat 9 am Pac

For anyone on a conscious spiritual path, learning to connect with your Higher Self is so essential and yet many people don’t have any idea of where to start.

In this Masterclass you will learn how to:

  • Connect with your Higher Self daily
  • Communicate with your Higher Self
  • Keep the connection clear and strong

The major benefits of Connecting with Your Higher Self are:

  • Creating a joy-filled life
  • Decreasing self-limitation & self-sabotage
  • Experiencing more inner peace and inner harmony
  • Feeling a deeper connection of Oneness
  • Increasing your self-value

It’s not too late for you to join us for our Masterclasses. By joining now, you can receive recordings of all the previous ones. Or you can just get them one class at a time if you would prefer to do that.

Reinventing Yourself for a Better Tomorrow – Masterclass Series
How To Connect With Your Higher Self
with Barbara Joy
Saturday, November 14, 2020
Noon Eastern • 11 am Central • 10 am Mountain • 9 am Pacific
(If you can’t join us live, we will send a recording)

If you would prefer to just register for this one Masterclass, Click here. Remember, you’ll get both classes for the price of one.

If you want to see all the amazing Masterclasses we’re planning for you over our 20 week series, Click here.

And remember that we know times are tough for many of you out there. That’s why we’ve provided scholarships. If that’s your situation, please Click here for the scholarship information.

If you’re already registered, I’m so glad and I’ll see you on Saturday!

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Watch my interview with Rhonda Britten on How To Be Fearless

She took the worst day of her life and turned it into a tool for taking you from fear to freedom.

Known as America’s Favorite Coach, and Founder of the Fearless Living Institute, Rhonda Britten shares a technique for shifting out of fear, embracing the idea that you are enough and creating life changing transformation. Listening to her is a real experience.

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Rhonda Britten has written four best selling books, appeared many times on Oprah and has over 600 appearances as a life coach on Reality TV.

In this week’s Meeting the Masters she shares her harrowing journey from the darkest of days to an amazing life and the life-changing tool she invented to save herself.

And check out her best seller “Fearless Living: Live Without Excuses and Love Without Regret.”

If you haven’t already signed up for Meeting the Masters, Click here.

If you prefer to listen as a podcast, go to AppleGoogle or Spotify. Subscribe to our channel and you’ll automatically get notified when a new podcast is available. And after you’ve listened to one or two of the interviews, I would so appreciate it so much if you would leave a 5 star review. The reviews help us reach more people and that’s the whole idea.

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The Peru trip is almost sold out! 100% Refundable!

Linda says “the entire Peru trip was fantastic,” 
“the best of all possible worlds”

“The entire Peru trip was fantastic, I would recommend it to anybody if they want to go to Peru, this is the kind of vacation to take. In the future, I won’t be able to travel any other way — it’s so much more meaningful to bond with the group, sharing a spiritual purpose, with a wonderful guide. You have the best of all possible worlds, all your daily needs met, no worries about train schedules or hotel reservations, and the benefit of a guide that is supporting your spiritual path. I didn’t want to leave Machu Picchu…”Linda Gunther

If you want to go, now is the time to decide. The trip is selling out fast. And please remember, it is 100% Refundable through April 1, 2021.

The trip is 100% refundable up to April 1, 2021 so that any deposits or other funds you have placed, will be completely refundable, no questions asked.

“My trip to Peru was a life altering experience. I laughed, I cried, I experienced new dimensions.” ~ Laura McConnell

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If you have any questions about our trip, send me an email at Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com or call me – (877) 204-3664 – or call my cell – (928) 301-2896. I love talking about Peru! 

If you already know you want to go on the trip, you can make your deposit – Click here.

So please join me on this trip of a lifetime.

Wishing you a week filled with love and compassion!

One Thing You Can Start Doing Right Now To Save Your Relationship

We have so many couples coming to us right now. We see it all the time – the pandemic has had a huge impact on relationships. What we’re seeing is, people are really “getting it” that life is so short, it’s too short to be living a life that’s not making you happy and it’s certainly too short to be in a relationship that’s not nurturing you.

Couples are coming to us as a last ditch effort and I have to say, we are having astounding results! I love it so much when we help people really figure out:

  1. The problems we “thought” we were having, are not the problems we’re really having.
  2. I thought the problems we were “really” having were her fault (or his fault, depending upon who the speaker is). Now, I see the problems are the result of our past and our unhealed wounds.
  3. When we heal our past and our unhealed wounds, we come back into love and I love her (him) even more than I thought!

And of course, you don’t know how to heal your past or your unhealed wounds, you might not even know what they are!

If you’re having trouble in your relationship, I really want to encourage you to look into doing a Couples Soul Adventure, either here in Sedona or At Home. It can change everything. For right now, I want to gift you with this video about ONE Thing You Can Start Doing Right Now To Save Your Relationship. It’s very simple. It’s not easy for everyone, but it is very simple. I hope this helps:

As I say in the video, if you are constantly giving yourself permission to say nasty stuff to your partner, you are on the road to Splittsville. And no one wants to go there.

But sometimes, telling yourself (or having me tell you) to just “stop it” isn’t enough. Usually with most couples there’s a history of hurts, sometimes there’s a lack of trust. Or worse, you’ve gotten yourself into a vicious cycle that you just can’t seem to get yourselves out of.

That’s where a Couples Soul Adventure comes in. We’ll spend time with you, digging deep to start the process of figuring out what’s holding you back from the relationship of your dreams, then we’ll custom design the perfect Soul Adventure for the two of you. Private sessions with our Master Practitioners are designed to take you from where you are to where you want to be.

Did you know Sedona Soul Adventures has been named to Guidedoc’s “Best Marriage Retreats in the US” for 4 years in a row? 2017 – 2020. Because we are the best. Many of our practitioners have been working with couples for over 20 years.

I love it so much when people like Carl and his wife come to us and have their lives and relationships changed forever for the better.

Give us a call and speak to one of our Angel Guides. They’ll begin the process of digging deep to discover what are the blocks that are holding you back from having the life or relationship of your dreams? Those blocks are different for everybody, the cause is different and how they show up is different. Let’s start the process.

Remember, there’s no cost or obligation and you can do it in-Sedona or from the comfort of your own home.

Call us today at 1-877-204-3664 (US and Canada). For our friends outside the US and Canada, call 01 928-204-5988 or Click here and we’ll call you.

Would you like to speak to someone today about doing a retreat?
We’re even open on Sunday, because we’re here for you!
And remember, there’s no cost or obligation.

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“The Ennegram and Relationships” – Saturday Masterclass 9 am Pacific

In last week’s Masterclass, we learned all about the Enneagram, what it is, what number you are, and exactly what that means. In our next Masterclass, we’re going to explore The Enneagram in Relationships. And we will do it with our incredible Master Practitioner, Robin Cameron, who I consider to be one of the finest Practitioners and teachers on the subject!

In my opinion, the Enneagram is the most amazing way to find out who you are and who you are with other people. It’s so perfect for discovering the best ways to interact (and how not to interact) with all the relationships in your life, whether it be your spouse or lover, friends, parents, your boss or your employees, even your children.

If you weren’t on last week, that’s no problem, just take the test (see below) before this Saturday. You can also listen to the recording of last week’s Enneagram Part I.

If you haven’t already signed up for our Masterclasses, it’s not too late for you to join us for all 20 sessions, or you can just get them one at a time (and always have access to the recordings). For these two classes on the Enneagram, we’re going to give you both classes for the price of one (if you decide to do the single session). Once you’ve signed up, you can listen to the recording from last week’s Masterclass.

I’m giving you the link to take the Enneagram test for free. If you’re attending the Masterclass, be sure to do this before Saturday, so that you know what number you are before the class starts. The test only takes about 10 minutes. Even if you’re not attending, I think you’ll find this to be fascinating. I devote a large part of my book (“The Journey To Happy – How Embracing The Concept That Nothing Is Wrong Can Transform Your Life”) to the Enneagram and how it impacts you in every area of your life.

Important Note for Taking the Test: If you are over the age of 25 and you find yourself stuck on a question, answer it as you would have at the age of 25.

Click Here to take the test.

Reinventing Yourself for a Better Tomorrow – Masterclass Series
Enneagram II – The Enneagram & Relationships
with Robin Cameron
Saturday, October 31, 2020
Noon Eastern • 11 am Central • 10 am Mountain • 9 am Pacific
(If you can’t join us live, we will send a recording)

If you would prefer to just register for just these two Masterclasses, Click here.

If you want to see all the amazing Masterclasses we’re planning for you over our 20 week series, Click here.

And remember that we know times are tough for many of you out there. That’s why we’ve provided scholarships. If that’s your situation, please Click here for the scholarship information.

If you’re already registered, I’m so glad and I’ll see you on Saturday!

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Watch my interview with Dr. John Gray (Mars/Venus) about what men need and what women need

This was one of the most fun and unusual of my Meeting the Masters interviews. You know Dr. John Gray from “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.” Did you know that book was the #1 Best Selling book of the 1990’s!!

This was my second interview with John and he gives so much wonderful information about how to have a healthy, loving relationship.

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We also talk a lot in the interview about Estrogen and Testosterone, and little things you can do to raise those levels in each. There are actually things we can say and do for each other to restore the balance.

This is a truly fascinating and powerful interview that every couple should watch together.

If you haven’t already signed up for Meeting the Masters, Click here.

If you prefer to listen as a podcast, go to AppleGoogle or Spotify. Subscribe to our channel and you’ll automatically get notified when a new podcast is available. And after you’ve listened to one or two of the interviews, I would so appreciate it so much if you would leave a 5 star review. The reviews help us reach more people and that’s the whole idea.

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A few more spaces available!
June 17-30, 2021
100% Refundable through April 1, 2021

Laura says, “My trip to Peru was a life altering experience. My heart has expanded to new levels. I am so open and the feeling is other worldly.”

“My trip to Peru was a life altering experience thanks to the efforts of Debra as well as an amazing group of sacred travelers. The universe is such a powerful place. I find it truly amazing how much coordination and dedication it takes to have so many pieces come together to create such a perfect moment in my life. I feel blessed to have been a part of that moment in time as it opened a whole new portal in my life. I cannot begin to express my gratitude. This is an excerpt of an email I sent to one of my best friend after the trip: I laughed. I cried. I was awed. I experienced new dimensions. I felt love and gave love. My gratitude is endless.

I feel fortunate to have experienced the Andes Mountains and people. My heart has expanded to new levels. I am so open and the feeling is other worldly. I have made amazing friends. The group, the leaders and the guide were all amazing teachers. I cannot wait to share everything with you.” – Laura McConnell

This is what happens when you go with us to Machu Picchu and Peru. It’s so much more than just seeing the sites — it’s about really connecting with these amazing places and connecting with that Highest Part of yourself in these places. It’s indescribably delicious, as the old commercial used to say.

And to be at Machu Picchu on the Solstice doing ceremony? Talk about a bucket list item!

Join me, Jorge Luis Delgado and our other sacred travelers on this trip of a lifetime – June 17-30, 2020. Click below for all the information:

Click here for all the information on pricing. And remember, it’s 100% refundable through April 1, 2021.

If you have any questions about our trip, send me an email at Debra@SedonaSoulAdventures.com.

Or feel free to give me a call – I love talking about Peru! 1-877-204-3664

If you already know you want to go, click here to make your deposit.

Wishing you a week filled with nurturing!

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I want to talk to you today about something that you would think nobody should have to say, but evidently it needs to be said because I see this out there all the time. Here it is: 

stop saying nasty stuff

If you want healthier, happier relationships, you need to stop saying nasty stuff to people you love.

I’m sure you’re sitting there thinking, “Duh, Debra, everyone knows that,” and okay, maybe everyone knows it, but is everyone abiding by that? Not from what I see. 

Think about it. What do we see on TV all the time?

Reality shows get bigger ratings the nastier the people are, especially if they’re plotting against each other.  

People constantly watch the Kardashians being nasty with each other and talking trash about other people.

But the biggest thing I see over and over again – and it breaks my heart – is to see, hear or be told about the nasty stuff that families say to each other and the nasty stuff that couples say to each other. 

Think about it. These are the people that are supposed to be the foundation of love in your life and you’re saying nasty stuff to them? And I’m not talking about them saying nasty stuff to you, you don’t have control over that (send them this video and maybe it will help). I’m talking about the person who has the control here and that’s YOU!

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You have control over what stuff comes out of your mouth and whether it’s nasty or not. And I would be willing to bet that if there have been nasty exchanges that there has been nasty stuff said on both sides, so let’s just focus on the person who has the control here, and that person is YOU! 

At this point, let’s define what I mean by “nasty stuff.” I have to say my definition is very, very broad. Because by definition, anything that isn’t coming from love, is negative, not pleasant, not good and not helpful for your relationship. And then you have the next level down, which is the really nasty stuff, where you’re calling each other names, you’re telling the other person what’s wrong with them and generally saying stuff which makes them feel bad. 

Let’s get really honest about why you are doing this. Because you want them to be different. You want them to work harder or you want them to work less and spend more time with you, or you want them to spend more time with their friends, or you want them to spend less time with their friends… You are saying stuff because you think you want them to be different than they are. 

And you’re telling yourself that you’re just trying to help them, and I’m sure part of that is true. But I want to tell you what I know after 20 years of being a divorce attorney and over 17 years of working with couples – when you are constantly criticizing or complaining to your partner, a family member or a friend, or telling them what to do or saying nasty stuff to them, you are killing intimacy. You are killing the one thing you say you want – which is love and connection. 

I know what you’re saying – “I have to tell him what to do, he’s a child, this entire household would collapse if I left him to his own devices” – and I will tell you, that kind of thinking is killing your relationship. 

And I get it. I grew up and got married during the time when lots of therapists were saying, “Get it all out, don’t hold back, say what’s on your mind.” And I gave myself permission to say all kinds of nasty stuff because I thought I was “airing things out” and the stuff I was saying was, of course, “true” and I was just trying to help my soon-to-be ex-husband be a better person. 

Well, all the studies are now showing that the opposite is true. Saying nasty stuff, fighting, arguing, complaining and criticism is death to a relationship. Because it kills love, it kills the nurturing that we all hunger for. 

There are therapists who can watch you and your spouse interact for a short period of time and tell you with astonishing accuracy whether or not you’re headed for divorce. The #1 telling factor is – how do you treat each other? Are you nurturing? Are you friends? Or are you nasty and controlling? If you’re nasty and controlling, your relationship is on the road to Splitsville. 

So what’s the answer? It’s really simple, you have to: 

  1. Understand the nasty stuff is killing your relationship 
  2. Stop the nasty stuff 

That’s pretty easy, right? Well, as someone who gave myself permission for so many years to do this, I know it’s not easy. But that’s the key. Make the decision to stop giving yourself permission. 

Making that decision can change everything in your relationship.

We had a couple here just a few weeks ago, let’s call them Carol and Mike. She was telling us that she is an overachiever and her husband isn’t, and that bothers her. And her husband was saying he wanted more intimacy with his wife and to feel closer and more in love again. Which is interesting because most of the time with the clients who come to us, we find that it’s the woman who is asking for more intimacy, but here it was reversed. 

I went into the office to say hello to them during their orientation and during our 10 minutes together, she talked over him, interrupted him and corrected him 4 times. This was during 10 minutes of me just saying hello and asking them how they were feeling.

As I left the office, I said a special prayer for them because I had a bad feeling. And after their first day I checked in with their practitioners, which I don’t usually do. I discovered that in their Love Codes session, we discovered that his biggest Love Code is Words of Praise (you can learn more about the Love Codes in my video “Want to Fix Your Relationship?”), meaning that he needs Words of Praise to make him feel loved and really Nurtured. They both agreed she criticizes him constantly. And when she was asked if she could stop criticizing him and instead discuss things with him in a nice, positive way, she said she couldn’t, because she has to be honest and if the truth hurts, so be it.  

We found out that her biggest Love Code is Protection and she doesn’t feel protected by him because he doesn’t work as hard as she does and doesn’t do things the way she wants him to do them, so she doesn’t feel protected by him. 

Their next session was the Enneagram and we discovered the she, like me, is an Eight. Watch my videos on the Enneagram for more of an explanation, but briefly, unhealed Eights are the aggressors, always picking a fight. They think they’re right about everything and they don’t trust anyone. So here she needs Protection, that’s her Love Code, but she doesn’t trust anyone, including her husband, because he doesn’t do things the way she wants.  

He told us that he actually wants to protect her, but that every time he tried to do something he got criticized and it was never good enough. He had basically given up.     

So we have two people who know what the other one needs and one person is willing to give it to the other, but the other person isn’t willing to give it to the other because she feels like she’s right and she wants him to change. She is completely unwilling to change. Even worse, she believes that her criticism is the truth and that telling the truth is more important than nurturing her husband. 

And she’s right. As an attorney for 20 years, I can say that telling the truth is very important. But if it’s hurting the person you love, is it getting you what you want? The question becomes:

I spoke with their other practitioners and while progress was being made, Carol just wasn’t making that switch. She wasn’t getting it that she just has to stop saying nasty stuff to him. Mike was totally getting his part in all of this and he was having huge transformations. Things were getting better between them, but she was holding onto what she saw as her sacred duty to criticize him. 

And then, magic happened. She did her Breath Journey and in that session, her mother who had passed away a few years ago came to her in a vision. Her mother had been a very critical person, of course, that’s where Carol got it. She had been very critical of Carol, Carol’s father and her siblings all during her life. She came to Carol and apologized to her for being so critical, apologized that it made Carol feel so unsafe that she felt she needed protection.

She told Carol how much she loved her and how proud she was of her, something that had never happened while her mother was alive. She told her how sorry she was that she unknowingly “taught” Carol to do this and showed her how she was teaching this to her own children and how important it was to break this generational pattern. Carol told me that after this experience with her mother, she never felt so full of love before and so safe.  

But the best part was, she got it that she had to stop with the criticism. She said, “I just have to stop.” And it’s so funny, because all of her practitioners were telling her this and it wasn’t quite sinking in. But suddenly, her dead mother shows up in a breath journey and then she can hear it. 

See that’s how this stuff has to happen. This is how these transformations happen. It doesn’t work to have someone tell you something, you have to experience it and really take it in, down to your core. This is what I talk about when I say that our retreats work on all the levels.

If your relationship is having problems, take a look at how you talk to each other.

Do you speak lovingly to each other? 

Do you treat each other like friends? 

Or Do you give yourself permission to say nasty stuff? And remember, my definition of “nasty stuff” is anything not coming from love. 

Start talking nice for one week and see if it makes a difference. I think you might be amazed. 

I get it that maybe you’re in a situation where a lot has happened and there is anger, resentment and problems on both sides, that’s usually the case. The question is, what are you going to do about it? Try this and see what happens. 

But if there’s deeper stuff there, come to Sedona and do a Couples Retreat. We can help you discover your true needs, because a lot of people don’t even know for sure what they need and how to break through to the love that brought you together in the first place.  

If you’d like, go to SedonaRetreatGuide.com and get your complimentary copy of The Sedona Guide to Couples Retreats today. 

Or even better, if you’d like to talk to someone about doing a retreat that will turn your relationship around, call us at (928) 204-5988. 

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